There was a food truck located in the parking lot and we walked over to get some ice cream. And happened upon a douchebag of an employee (possibly the owner of the place). He was the definition of lousy customer service; abrupt, rude, arrogant and incapable of making eye contact (or unwilling to) while being an ass.
It’s rare that I’m bothered by these types of people, but this guy ruffled my feathers. Why? Because he’d been a jerk to my husband who was the one that interacted with him. If you knew my husband, you’d understand. He’s a really nice guy; polite, friendly and always smiling. You have to be a huge douchebag to treat someone as warm as him so badly.
When we got back on the road, my husband asked why I was upset. When I told him that I was disturbed by that incident, he said: “Forget about him. He’s not worth worrying about. You’ll go about your day having fun, and he’ll go about his day being an asshole.”
*blink*
Well, that put things in a whole new perspective, and I was no longer angry. I turned to my husband and said: “You know...you’re absolutely right. Imagine spending your life being a dick. How awful is that?”
Yes, people like that are not worth being upset over. Spending their lives being a dick is punishment enough.
*snort*
I know one of those...I can't stand to be around him!!! Family..sheesh what a miserable person.
ReplyDeleteSome people make you feel that way. It's terrible. I wonder if they know they have that impact. And if they even care.
DeleteYour husband is so right!!! I used to spend so much energy getting angry at assholes, but they have to wake up every day and be them over, and over, and over again.
ReplyDeleteI know. It sucks to be them!
DeleteYour husband's approach is totally the right one. It must be such an unhappy existence to be someone who's always rude to other people like that worker was.
ReplyDeleteI imagine some people have a lot of issues inside and live in suffering. But I also believe that some people are just downright nasty.
DeleteThere's one guy I knew that was a customer in a situation. Every time he'd stroll up he'd beep the horn on his truck and make ridiculous demands. And then cuss at us every-time something didn't flow perfectly.
ReplyDeleteSome customers can be just as bad. There are nasty pieces of work on both sides of the counter.
DeleteA good lesson there for us all!
ReplyDeleteYeah....don't be a dick, and don't let one get to you...LOL!
Deletenothing like rudeness to spoil ones day, he is in the wrong job!
ReplyDeleteThat's for certain. But it's always best not to let these types of people ruin your day.
DeletePollyanna wants a word: I think we need the a**holes to 1/ keep us from becoming one and 2/ make us and our friends seem SOOO much kinder by comparison. Wouldn't the world be poorer without a few good bad examples LOL
ReplyDeleteYou are right! When you stand then to an ass, you always look so much better...LOL
DeleteJust checking in. You are as refreshing as ever, Martha!! :)
ReplyDeleteJust ranting and raving, Francie....LOL So nice to see you here. I hope you are keeping well.
DeleteYour husband is very wise. It's not worth letting someone who is that miserable in his own skin get you down. Though, I will admit, that that can be sometimes easier said than done. But it's very true. That guy has to live with that miserableness inside himself, you two got to walk away and have a wonderful day. Hopefully he can find some sunshine and lose the attitude. Bright blessings, Bird
ReplyDeleteYes, it is hard sometimes to ignore this type of behaviour. I find it much easier, though, when I do. I don't want my day being ruined by someone else's bad attitude. Life is too short for that.
DeleteI cant stand people like that ! I was in retail for years and enjoyed dealing with customers ..ok you get your bad ones like this guy but as I always said to my colleges the best thing to do is not get snappy or bitchy with them just smile and tell them to have a good or nice day , that got them all the time and would change their tune as they realized being an ass was not going to bother us at all ! I have always been the type of person to be kind and friendly to treat others as you want to be treated and if a rotten bugger like this crosses my path I would just smile and carry on ! All though some have been really nasty and that's when I step up and put them in their place . It will eventually come back and bite him in the ass when no one buys from him and he and his little business goes tits up because of it , rule of thumb in business of all kinds is negative words about them travels faster then positive ones ! Have a good day and don't let his ignorance spoil it !
ReplyDeleteYou have it right; it's best to smile and tell people to have a good day. Much better than letting these bad apples get to you. Let them wallow in their misery alone. Like you, I do step forward when I really have to. You have to draw the line somewhere!
Delete“Forget about him. He’s not worth worrying about. You’ll go about your day having fun, and he’ll go about his day being an asshole.”
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely right on... however, for me, I just simply can't resist saying ... business must be good. That usually gets a look of some sort. And ask them ...why in the world would you work in a job dealing with the public?
One of my pet peeves ... people in a public job who are rude. don't like it ~ especially when directed at a polite individual such as your husband.
I have absolutely no patience with this type and being a classless mouthy broad ... tell 'em so but not in anger. They really like it when they anger someone. I think they're funny...
"...business must be good..." I like that! Probably leaves people confused and wondering if you're asking a questing or making a statement or being serious or being sarcastic. And if you say it with a smile on your face, all the better!
DeleteLMHO - sorry but your husband put everything into perfect perspective LOL
ReplyDeleteIt all depends on my frame of mind - I can either blast them or ignore them - but God help them when I'm having a menopausal moment and they're rude to me - been there - done that too!!!
XXX
Hahaha...don't be messing with us when we are having a menopausal moment! You got that right, Suzan!
DeleteYou husband is very wise, Martha! Husbands have a way of putting things in perspective. Mine certainly does! I try to be understanding when I meet people like you described ~ maybe they're in pain physically or emotionally or something difficult is going on in their lives ~ but sometimes they're just jerks. The place with the best customer service I've ever experienced is the fish market at Pikes Place Market in Seattle. The people there go to amazing lengths to make your time there amazing. "Make their day!" I'm sure is their philosophy. I think of that often, and try to smile at all kinds of people. Take care.
ReplyDeleteSome people do have a bad attitude because of certain legitimate issues, and I can respect that. But being rude and aggressive around people who you don't know, and people who have not done anything to you couldn't possibly make their situation better. Still. I may be persuaded to be more patient with them. But I also believe that there are people out there who are just plain nasty. Call me cynical, but I don't think everyone in this world is decent!
DeleteThe sentiment is really good, though difficult to remember when I'm fuming with anger towards assholes. But as you and your hubby say, they're miserable. We're better off. Time to move on.
ReplyDeleteKeep smiling, Martha.
xoRobyn
It's extremely difficult at times to have patience with these types. Most of the time I do, but not always.
DeleteEXCELLENT post! I let people get under my skin, I do. But you and your husband are right--let them be dicks. I get to go about my day and be awesome me, and they get to go about their day being a doucheface.
ReplyDeleteIt's harder to keep your cool when someone like this is being an ass to someone you love. Your initial reaction is to defend the ones you care about. But my husband is a grown man, and I figured he would say something if it really bugged him. It didn't.
DeleteExcellent support from your husband. It's not easy to ignore such an ignorant person.
ReplyDeleteIt certainly isn't easy. But I think you feel so much better when you do!
DeleteYour hubby is great. And most correct.
ReplyDeleteHe is! He's such a great guy.
DeleteI know, you are a lucky chick. And it's super refreshing for me to find another blogger who loves being married. It's the best.
DeleteI do. But only because I'm with a good guy. I didn't feel this way the first time around. This is my second marriage. The first one wasn't good. At all!
DeleteI thought being an asshole was against the law in Canada. Haha, just kidding. Clearly, that guy was from DC.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha...love that, Liza! Oh, you are funny, girl!
DeleteI get miffed at how obnoxious people can be sometimes... I would tell him to get his ice cream and shove it.
ReplyDeleteThat's what was going on in my head, but I took a deep breath and decided it just wasn't worth it. Maybe next time? LOL...
DeleteBravo for your husband,
ReplyDeleteHe's so right and sounds like a great guy!
I never let those asses get to me.
Who they are is their worst reward!
Nice to find you in Blogland.
Hi, Margie, and welcome! Yes, it's best not to let people like this get to you. They are not worth all that energy!
DeleteI'll check out your blogs as soon as I'm done here.
I have so little patience for rude people lately. Not so much when they're rude to me, but they'd better not be rude to other people when I'm around. Doesn't even have to be family - I'll jump to the defence of train conductors and buskers and whatever.
ReplyDeleteIt's worth it just to see the shock on people's faces when tiny, harmless-looking me stands up to them. Shuts them right up.
I know...it's so hard to be patient when other people are being treated so badly. Most of the time I resist the temptation, but once in awhile I can't.
DeleteYes, your husband is right. I wish I could be more like your husband. I get way too upset when other people are miserable.
ReplyDeleteHe is right because these people can ruin your entire day. This is what I try to tell myself all the time. And I don't want my day ruined, so I make a real effort to walk away and leave them and their asshole attitude behind.
DeleteHow strange that he chose to be in food service where interacting politely with other humans determines your paycheck.
ReplyDeleteI know. Makes you wonder. Individuals who aren't good with people should have jobs where they don't interact with the public.
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