Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Parents Of Teens Understand Why Some Animals Eat Their Young

Adolescence:
the groaning, eye-rolling, mouthing off, know-it-all, frontal-lobes-haven’t-connected-yet period...


Let me start off by saying that my second crack at raising a teenage girl has been pretty smooth sailing. My younger daughter who is 16 is pretty well-rounded; she has a part time job, a healthy social life and very good grades. She makes me proud on a daily basis, and I’ll admit that I have it fairly easy with her.


That being said, there have been moments that can try the patience of a saint. Teenage girls can do that to you. They’re a unique species. For the most part, they have rational periods when you can see the wonderful young adult developing in them. But occasionally, rationality takes a backseat to the hormone-laden emotions that turn them into overgrown, tantrum-throwing, bellyaching toddlers. That want to think for themselves and make their own decisions. In that state.


Sometimes they do things that don’t make sense, which begs the question:
“Why do they do stupid shit like that?”

Well...because we all did stupid shit at that age. How else would we have suffered so many life lessons? How else would we grow out of that trying adolescent period that made our parents want to shake us at times until our eyeballs rattled?


Every time my patience as a parent of a teen girl is tried, all I have to do is remember some of the stupid shit my parents had to put up with when I was that age. I’m sure they had moments when they understood completely why some animals eat their young.

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  1. I seriously wonder why my parents still loved me after the crap I pulled on them, which is why God gave me boys 'cause he knew I was too weak to raise girls.

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    1. Thank goodness for their unconditional love! 'Cause no one else would put up with us at that age :)

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  2. My sister will soon being going through this - her daughter is 11. I tell her she has some fun parenting times ahead :)

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    1. It will definitely be interesting, but if she's fortunate, it'll be easy enough.

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  3. I like the salt one on the top right

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  4. The last of my wonderful nieces is getting closer and closer to exiting the teens. Somehow the kiddos have come through and are turning into amazing adults. But I know the challenges my siblings and my S-I-L have had! I think if lots of caring and understanding people are there for them and give them room to make mistakes and learn, then they will make it. Considering some of the stupid, stupid stuff I did, I'm lucky I lived through my teens! I think this phase of invincibility and knowing it all is necessary, otherwise how would any kiddo have the courage to leave the nest? And girls! Oh the angst and heartache we went through riding those hormonal waves! I have a lot of compassion for my beloved nieces! I do for my nephews too, but guys are far less complicated!

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    1. You are right about that...teens think they are invincible! And, of course, they know everything. And that's certainly a way to build courage to leave the nest. Girls are more emotional than boys. Add some hormones into the mix and it's quite a roller coaster ride. I can't complain, really, because both girls have been fairly easy. A bump now and then, but certainly nothing worth bellyaching about. Things could have been much worse.

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  5. Times were different back when I was a teen there was respect for your parents , these day the teens don't have that and now a days more teens are the parent as parents are either way to busy or just don't care and are lazy at parenting no guidance or routine any more . I was raised by old fashioned British parents and on a farm so even though I tryed to get under their skin at times it never worked . I have boys and believe me compared to my friends who have girls my boy's were great , typical boys they were and as I am a tomboy myself we got along wonderfully . Oh the life of a parent with teens now a days it is harder then it used to be , now a days I couldn't handle it . Thanks for sharing ! Have a good week !

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    1. Yes, times have changed. Some parents try to be friends with their children these days. My kids have enough friends. Right now I need to be their mom. They need me to help them navigate the world, so they can be prepared to take over the reins when it's time for them to do so. Respect is key in our home, which is something that is not negotiable in this house. No matter what your mood or how you day is going, you must show respect for each other.

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  6. oh yeah, I'm in the thick of it! I have a 15 yo, and an 11 yo in training. And it is amazing how quickly the mood can change like someone - or something has possessed my daughter! I find myself saying "I just want to help you ..." but seems she really wants to do things the hard way. sigh.

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    1. Teenage hormones! I think it's even worse for girls, but I can really say because I don't have a son. Moms with sons would know better.

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  7. Remembering that I was once 16 is the only thing that is getting me through the teen years!

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    1. We've all done some crazy stuff; we need to remember that!

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  8. My son still gets to me so much, and he is 18....just relax, I say to myself, it will get better!

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    1. Yes, it most certainly gets better. The brain finally stops going nuts...hahaha...

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  9. I was a middle school teacher for 37 years. There was a suggestion that we couldn't teach middle school kids anything at that age. I strongly disagree . There is so much they learn ...even during those wild tantrums. I also have a 42 year old daughter!

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    1. Your daughter is a few years younger than me! You look to young to have a daughter that age.

      Yes, middle school kids can be taught. You just have to know how to reach them, which you clearly did.

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  10. As I can only simply say, thank you for posting this Martha. It provided me with some chuckles in the midst of parenting a teenage girl.

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  11. And to think I was 'spared' all this!! Phew!

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  12. That's a funny way to end the post.

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    1. I always think of what my parents went through with me. Makes raising kids so much easier!

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