Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Today It’s All About Me

“Man alone measures time. Man alone chimes the hour. And, because of this, man alone
suffers a paralyzing fear that no other creature endures. A fear of time running out.”
- The Time Keeper by Mitch Albom - 

As an introvert, I typically shy away from being in the spotlight. But for this post I’m going to make an exception. Because today I turn 49, and so begins my last year in the 40s club. One year from now, I’ll have lived half a century.



The other day, my husband and I were discussing my heading towards fifty, and he asked me how I feel about it. If it bothers or saddens me in any way that so much time has gone by.

So much time.



Time. Such a precious commodity. A daily gift. A gift that I’ve woken up to every day for 49 years. 17,885 days. Just because I’ve been lucky enough to.



I would be cheating myself of another ‘today’ if I was bothered by time going by. Because life happens now. Right now.



And it isn’t about length, but rather about meaning. And passion. And gratitude.



About celebrating the moments we have instead of worrying about the ones that might not come.



It’s not easy to practice this philosophy, and often times I wander away from it. But when I do, I remind myself to stay focused.



I remind myself to honour and cherish my time here. Because there is no guarantee for even one more day. One more hour. One more second.



I am mortal, and no matter what, the end is inevitably going to come. And when it does, will I have used my time wisely?



So I am not bothered or saddened that all this time has gone by. I am thankful that I’m still here. Thankful for this precious thing we call life. Every moment, of every day.


(All photos courtesy of the most amazing man in the world.)

50 comments:

  1. Fabulous attitude, Martha. Happy birthday!! May you have many, many more years ahead of you!

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    1. Thanks, Liza! I truly hope life gives me many more years on this beautiful planet.

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  2. The Most Amazing Man is indeed very lucky ....as you are, surrounded by the beauty you create, 49 starting your 50th year you have lived 49 years, that,s a reason to celebrate I'm turning 55 in April 21...and age had never made a difference in my life...so I hope that your attitude never changes, and why should it , it never wavered before you are an extraordinary woman, so I'm happy you have the Most Amazing Man and Happy Birthday m'dear fellow-introvert lol

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    1. Thank you, Lorraine, for your lovely comments. Age is truly just a number; it's what you do with your years. When it's time for me to exit, I want to have enjoyed the time here. Is there any other way to live this life than with joy? I don't think so.

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  3. Happy Birthday, Martha. I'm right behind you -- turning 49 myself in nine days. And I couldn't agree more.

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    1. That is great. I'll wish you a happy birthday in advance! We both start the 50th year journey at the same time! Thanks for the birthday wishes!

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  4. Happy birthday, Martha! Love ya, kiddo.

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    1. Awww...thank you, Debra. {{{{Right back at ya!!}}}}

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  5. Happy Birthday! They say you can only count on two things in life. I disagree, Martha :) I think we can count on being surprised by life in every moment, every day, and every year we are offered. (When I was forty-nine, I had never read a blog, let alone written one, never imagined how the online world would one day change my life.) So many new things are waiting to be discovered. I know you will cherish each one. Enjoy your day!

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    1. You are so right, Monique! There are so many wonderful surprises in life. The blogging world and the amazing people in it is one of them. I've met some incredible people from around the world in this special social zone. I've already met two in person, and perhaps I'll be fortunate enough to meet more along the way. Thank you for the birthday wishes!

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  6. Happy Birthday Martha!
    What a wonderful philosophy you have for living your life to the fullest.
    Have a great day and year ahead.
    All the best to you.

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    1. Thanks, Jim. From what I gather from the blogs of you three amigos, you share this philosophy. We're just passing through, so we may as well enjoy the time we have here!

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  7. Happy 49th! My one and only son was 7 when I turned 49. ! AND reading what you have written about your beautiful daughters and how you relate to them ... is good stuff. Your photography ... a passion and loving husband.

    man?

    You have done .... good. I can't see a bit of your time being wasted... when you can find excitement in the smallest animal or flower or bird or old wood and doors and WHATever ... I'd say you got yourself quite a life ...

    Happy Happy Birthday!!!!

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    1. Thank you, Carolyn, for these lovely comments! Yes, I do have quite a life. I've always found joy in the simple things in life, and this is a major contributor to being happy more often than not. Materialism just doesn't work for me. I'm much more fascinated by what the world has to offer. And what an amazing world it is!

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  8. A very happy and beautiful 49th year on this planet to you, Martha. Your post today was so touching and meaningful to me, I wonder if you might be all right with me copying and pasting your words to print up and put up on my "Life is" board in my house. I think you said it perfectly and I want to use your words to remind me each day that life is something amazing, wonderful and as always, a gift. Thank you for sharing this today. Blessing and beauty and joy to you, Bird

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    1. Thank, Bird, for the wonderful comments, and by all means, go ahead and use my words as you wish. I am flattered that you would want to do that! Life truly is a gift. It also leads us to beautiful people...like you!

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  9. Happy Birthday!!! Yes you're so right, life isn't about length. It's about meaning. It's the depth of life, not the length.

    p.s. have lots of cake for me!!!

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    1. That is absolutely right, Keith. It's about depth, not length...

      P.S - I granted your wish and ate lots of cake. Hope you enjoyed it :)

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  10. Happy Birthday, Martha! Here's to a wonderful year ahead for you....and it can't be bad at all turning 49 when you look nothing like 49!

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    1. Thanks, Sulky! There are days when I feel like 49! LOL... But I appreciate the compliment :)

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  11. Beautiful pictures and sentiment, Martha.
    Happy Birthday!
    xoRobyn

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  12. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I like your philosophy. I agree with Sulky Kitten - you really don't look anywhere near 49. Wishing you lots of happiness always.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by and leaving these birthday wishes!

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  13. you look lovely Martha, and still young! Happy Birthday!

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  14. Happy birthday!!!
    As you say , "It's not the numbers that count but what you actually experience and enjoy."

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    1. Thanks, Red! We are here for a short time, so why not make the best of it?

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  15. Good thoughts well expressed, Martha. I've been through a few more of these "milestone birthdays," and have discovered that they don't get any easier to accept. As you point out, we just have to make the most of our days as we go along. Happy Birthday!

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    1. Thanks, Doug. Yup, the years build up, and they don't get any easier. May as well enjoy the ones we have!

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  16. Happy Birthday, Martha! And very, very wise words here. I am trying to be more mindful of the time I have, too, because it's not guaranteed. I turned 50 last year, and the milestone had me pondering life and time also. I hope you have enjoyed your special day!!

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    1. Thank you, Tina! It was a lovely birthday. It's not always easy to have a positive attitude, but I try hard every day. Makes life so much easier --- and enjoyable!

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    You look to be about 39, not 49. xo

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  18. Happy birthday, slightly belated - I hope you had a great day!

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  19. Hi Martha....
    I see your name on a lot of the same blogs that I like to visit...
    And...you and I share a birthday! YAY for February 11th!
    And.....we are both Canadian!
    Thought I would join your blog....and follow your funny posts!
    Happy belated Birthday Martha! You're the best!
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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    1. Hi, Linda! Thanks for the birthday wishes, and your lovely comments. And welcome to my blog! I will have to visit yours as soon as I'm done catching up with all the comments, and with the blogs I missed yesterday. It's always nice to make new friends in this amazing blogging world!

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  20. Happy belated birthday Martha

    I was in the shower and thinking about you... now don't jump to the wrong conclusion, I can't stand hearing myself sing so I do a lot of thinking in there!

    I was thinking that we must be twin:
    - We are both introvert
    - We both suffer great lost... you lost the Expo, I lost the Nordiques
    - Your life philosophy is close to mine
    - Some twin are not born the same day... let say one at 5 to midnight and the other at 5 after midnight (at our age who care about 5 little years :) )
    - and like many twin, there is the good one (me) and the devil one... you of course ha ha ha

    I love this Martha: "And it isn’t about length, but rather about meaning. And passion. And gratitude."

    I think it crossed path with something I read once: "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "Holy shit... What a ride!!!"

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    1. Don't worry, Richard, I also do some of my best thinking in the shower. And then I get out and POOF, all those great ideas are gone!

      We certainly do have a lot in common. Perhaps you are my alter ego. Or I am yours. And one of us doesn't really exist. We just log onto a different account with a different name, and pretend to be someone else. So are you real? Or am I? Hahaha...

      Yes, you have to reach the end of your life a little beaten down. That's when you know you have truly lived!

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  21. You are gorgeous Martha and i cannot believe you are 49.
    Loved this post, made me smile.

    Hope you had a wonderful day, happy belated.

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  22. Happy Belated Birthday Martha! Sorry I am so late, I am still feeling a bit disconnected these days. I just want to tell you that your blogs and your wonderful comments are some of the nicest parts of my day. Thank you Martha, and here's too many more wonderful years ahead! ~ Diane

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    1. Thank you, Diane! And there's no need to apologize. We visit blogs when we can, and sometimes life is just too busy. But we're all connected even when we're not online!

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