Friday, June 13, 2014

The Good Old Days Of...Sexism

Sometimes I hear people saying how “things were so much better in the past” and how they wish they could “turn back the clock and go back to the good old days”.

As for me, I say “no frickin’ way!

Over my dead and decomposing body would I want to go back to the days of this...



...this...



... or this...



You’d have to drag me back kicking and screaming to a time when women were thought of as personal property; treated as nothing more than housekeepers, baby factories and servants to their husbands. A time when it was perfectly acceptable to bar women from many professions and pay them less than what a man was paid in any type of job (if they were even allowed to have that job, or any job). And to a time when it wasn’t unheard of for a man to routinely beat his wife to keep her in line. Many women slapped around in the ‘good old days’ learned to live with it. Society did not begin to pay significant attention to domestic violence until the 1970s.

I’d rather get stung by a swarm of wasps than go back to a time when women were considered exasperatingly stupid and incompetent, and portrayed that way. Like in the vintage ads in this video:



Oh sure, the ‘good old’ days were not such a bad time for men who were waited on, looked up to and obeyed. But for women? Gawd... They weren't exactly magical times.

Like anyone around my age or older, I like to take an occasional detour down nostalgia lane and reminisce about some good times I had with family and friends. But not in a million years would I give up how far we've come along and turn back the clock to live in the 'good old days'. Correction... Not in a billion years.

Wishing you all a beautiful weekend!



41 comments:

  1. I have ALWAYS wondered why people refer to the past as the "good ole days"??? For whom?? For white, upper-class, protestant men?? Because they were not the "good ole days" for anyone else!! That has always puzzled me so much. I would never want to turn back the clock to the world we used to live in. Thank you for posting this :-)

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    1. Oh yes, it was a perfect time for those men. For everyone else? Not so much. I prefer to keep moving forward, and hopefully things will keep getting better and better!

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  2. shocking photos and video, seriously, it makes me angry, it really does! To make it worse, there are lots of men out there today who still think like this. And it all wasn't that long ago!

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    1. Yes, there are many men out there that still think this way. We are not far enough ahead yet, and we must keep moving forward!

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  3. Spot on, Martha.
    I am so with you on this.
    Great post!

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    1. Hopefully we keep moving forward and evolving, Margie! One generation at a time...

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  4. LOL oh God, I remember those days faintly...but the one time i felt it directly was when I was young and my sister was older and i guess she heard my dad say something one time too often which I'm translating....
    'Honey make me a coffee would you' and my sister rose up and said I'll get it for you dad Mom had a long day at work so she made his coffee which surprised the hell out of me until my dad took a huge sip and hugely blew it out of his mouth looked at my sister and said what in the world did you put in my coffee? She said: "Salt, mom is not your maid , make your own coffee...I laughed even with the dirty look, oh boy did I laugh lol...my mom tried to hide a smile but she couldn't and not so long ago, men have continually tried to change me, trying to get me into the kind of job they thought I should do, trying always to change me, I had finally every time, explain very honestly that no I'm not a maid, but no I'm not too sophisticated to clean my own toilet, to you're so beautiful you'd be perfect if you lost 10. 15 pounds you'd be hot. But i like my body it's not meant to be skinny, I'm very curvy, like I said I like my body. oh he would reply oh so you're retiring....in that relationship i hadn't gained a pound, he gained thirty, some still believe as he told the way of the world a couple of years ago. It's God, man, woman than child. I'm personal it's God, than me. oh the stories I could tell oh men trying to change when I needed no change, and yet no one has even realized that no matter how beautiful i looked, I was so much more beautiful inside. So I'm happy I'm getting older and I'm doing nothing to stop it...maybe just once in my life I'll be loved for who I am, which hasn't happen yet. My cats love me for who I am...even when I get lazy.

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    1. Hahahaha... I love that story about your sister! Women aren't put on this planet to serve men. It used to be that way not too long ago, and it still is in many places. Don't let any man define you, Lorraine! You don't need that crap. You are a beautiful person inside and out, and you don't need a man's approval. Like you, I have no issue with getting older. I am aging as I should, and grateful for each and every day that I'm given. It is a blessing to enjoy this beautiful thing we call life.

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  5. boy that was long, so sorry, you got me going lol

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  6. Oh my - we've come a long way baby! Yeah, I agree there's no way I'd want to go back to those days. Thanks for sharing these.

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    1. We certainly have come a long way. But we still have a way to go!

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  7. hahaha...great post!!! BF mentioned, the other day, that my niece might be able to getta man if she'd lose some weight. Needless to say...we had a few words!!! First of all...she's happy, busy, active, healthy, successful. Why in the hell would she need a man???

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    1. Oh...just like a man to think that a woman NEEDS a man...LOL...

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  8. I'm with you. Over - my - dead - body! The day I'm subservient is the day I'm six feet under!

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    1. And even then...you'd probably put up a fight... LOL...

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  9. Martha for Prime Minister!!
    I couldn't agree more with you and we need more people like you!! Full steam ahead!

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    1. Oh, I could never be a politician, Jim! Too much spotlight for this quiet-seeking introvert. But if someone like me ran for the position, I'd vote for them... LOL...

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  10. agree with you here! considering I work full time and my husband stays home with the kids ... we'd have some trouble if we reversed the clock!

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    1. You bet! I love that you have made an arrangement like that. That's how families should do things. Work together to create the best possible environment...no matter the gender!

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  11. One of my former co-workers lives a life like stereotypical southern person with a low IQ to go with it. The other day he wore a shirt that says "Cool story babe now go make me a sandwich"...

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    1. Unfortunately, these types of backward mentalities still exist...

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  12. Off with their heads/arms/legs!!!!

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  13. Wouldn't it be nice to think all of that was completely behind us?? Great post & enjoy this beautiful week-end!

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    1. It sure would, Francie. But we still have a long way to go...sigh... I hope you are having a wonderful weekend!

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  14. *Standing ovation from this woman* We are truly the first generation that's even talking about marital infidelity as - possibly a betrayal on the husband's part. But the woman he sleeps with is still the only one blamed. And "sshh! Don't tell your own mother. She knew that boys would be boys, and that's the price of marriage."

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    1. I know, Robin! The woman is always in the spotlight with derogatory comments aimed at her, and the man gets the 'boys will be boys' crap! Makes me so angry!

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  15. LOL …. and NOW you see the rebellion in me …. I said …. when I was 16 … let's see what year was that … 1959… wow… NO WAY NO HOW … Jose… written about it many times … as I'm surrey you're aware ;)

    One of my earliest rebellions was when on a date? … well, one such was at his Country Club … a shrimp peel ~ all you can eat luxurious buffet.

    After a bit … he placed a cheese saucer in front of me. I … thought, huh? I didn't do anything. He then said… cheese! … I said… cheese? yes, cheese ~ can't you see we are out?

    oh, baruther … I simply said… so, we are. He threw down his napkin and said … oh my god… you're one of THOSE… I said… one of what. He said … feminists… I said.. well? I don't really like labels but if you're saying that I don't wait on men for fun and games … you would be correct. … we barely finished the meal and nary another word between us until he stopped in front on my apartment … stopped… I reached for the handle … of course ~ back in those days the guys got out and opened the door for we 'ladies'.

    He said … I don't believe this. I said … believe it.

    Another? when a guy would be wherever we were?! and he would be chatting away with whoever … rattle his glass AT ME … I said.. yes? you rang? yes, I need another….

    It became a thing with me to always ALWAYS take my car … I don't even say adios… just turn and walk away… rattle your damn glass at me… boy!

    oh, I could go on and on and on and on…. makes the hair on m'arms rise as I think of such nonsense! got fired many times ….

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    1. Hahahaha! I just love your stories, Carolyn! I had the same attitude. OHMYGAWD...I couldn't stand the 'subservient' role that was expected of me. NEVER ever did I comply. Had we grown up around the same time and same place, I have no doubt we would have been great friends. Our rebellious attitudes about this topic would have been perfectly aligned...LOL... This is one of my favourite things about you!

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  16. Yup. You are so right. Never would want to go back to those days of chauvinistic jerks. Still get it today but my 30 year old daughter doesn't really know that feeling of male superiority and glad that changes have occurred. Onward to the future of pure equality.

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    1. I'm glad that we are moving forward. I have two daughters, and the world is a little better for them. I hope it keeps going this way!

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  17. As you said i also have taught many time. Life is good before than now. Life changes as days are passing. Need to enjoy them as it comes.

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    1. You bet! One day at a time. Enjoy every one of them.

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  18. Love those old ads and the way they were made (though the content here is a bit feminist as you say)

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    1. Well, all I can say is...thank goodness things are getting better for women. We still have a long way to go, but we're moving forward!

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  19. I wasn't raised around chauvinistic people. But when I tell people that I love being
    a housewife, some women don't understand. They're so career-driven that stopping
    to clean the kitchen and make some good food, is just not what they're interested it.

    To each their own. For me, I love being a housewife. Love it.

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    1. Yup, I agree...to each their own. I like doing whatever makes me/our household happy. I have no one to please or impress. I've been in many different roles: working full time, part-time; being a stay-at-home mom; homemaker/housewife; single working mom; back to school single mom, etc. I've enjoyed each one for different reasons, and adapt to whatever situation is necessary. Right now I'm full time at home, and I like you, I love it. Where will I be a year from now? Who knows? We'll see when - and hopefully if - I get there!

      I saw a lot of male chauvinism and female oppression growing up, which made me dig my heels deeper as a rebel against sexism. I respect and support whatever decisions a women makes about the direction she wants to take...as long as it's her own. So whether a woman wants to be at home or out on the job force makes no difference to me. It's all good. Because she has that free will. In the old days, women were oppressed and forced to be subservient. THAT...I don't support.

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    2. If you grew up seeing that, then that's rough. I was never taught that girls were any different than boys. You wanted to do something, you did it. Didn't matter. And all four of my grandparents were cooks. So that for me, was fun to watch. Everyone did something. It wasn't just a girl or boy job. It was a family job.

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