Thursday, September 11, 2014

Living In The Present

“We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand ... and melting like a snowflake.
Let us use it before it is too late.”
- Marie Beynon Ray -

If I sit and think about days gone by, I can easily list a dozen things I wish I’d done differently. My list of regrets is even longer. But what’s the point? What good does it do me to wallow in the coulda, woulda, shoulda? I cannot change anything that happened. What’s done is done, and hopefully I’ve learned from my experiences, and become a better person for them.


And since I have no control over some things that may come my way in the future, there’s no point fretting about it. It is futile. Exhausting. And counterproductive. One day at a time is all I can handle. Whether I worry about it or not, the future will arrive in its own time, and in its own way. If it's meant to arrive at all.


I live in the present. In the day. In the moment. I do not worry about the future. Or spend too much time thinking about the past. There is no ‘what was’ or ‘what will be’. Only what is.  The past and future are illusions; they don’t exist. And I don’t want the present being shadowed by them.


This is it. This moment. When my life is happening. And where I choose to be.

Do you live in the present? Dwell in the past? Or worry about the future?

30 comments:

  1. I try to live in the present, but with varying degrees of success.

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    1. All we can do is try, Debra. Living in the present is a daily effort!

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  2. Such serene photos and so beautiful! I suppose those who are content are the ones who are most comfortable in the present and it is a pleasure dropping into your present, Martha!

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    1. That is very true, Francie. If you are content, you are comfortable in the present. It is a daily exercise for me. Wake up, remind myself of my blessings, and be grateful for the day. It takes effort, but it's well worth the peace it brings.

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  3. Good post. We all need to be reminded that dwelling on the past gets you nowhere.

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    1. That is true, Linda. It really does get you nowhere. But people do the best they can.

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  4. I am learning to live in and be in the moment. It isn't easy so I spend time each day in meditation.

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    1. It really isn't easy, Birdie. It takes effort to live in the present; daily effort. And meditation is a great way to do that. Good for you!

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  5. I love in the moment living. It's great fun and tasty. Right now I'm drinking a caramel mocha that I made and sorting papers, all in my jams. Because that's about the speed I can handle right now.

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    1. I love how you spend your days. You are truly content, which makes living in the moment so much easier.

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  6. whatever it is that made you the woman you are, I say WOO HOO because you're kind, you're smart, you're wonderful and you've got the most wonderful man in the world and great daughters , I say you did very, very well with whatever misery life through at you....I've learned to live the moment, because thinking ahead is torture so i've stopped today, this minute, and you are a wonderful example of the kind of person \i'd like to be

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    1. That is very kind, Lorraine, and I think you are a wonderful person already; no need to go further! We all have a past that has shaped us. I look back on it, now and again, but I don't stay there. It is gone. And its purpose was to help me grow. I like to think that I've learned from it.

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    1. Thanks, Lorraine. I'm always happiest by the water!

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  8. One of my favorite quotes , It is what it is ! Good post . Dwelling gets ya know where what is in the past stays in the past I say live for the moment , wonderful photos . Thanks for sharing , Have a good day !

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    1. You got it, Country Gal! Living in the present is the best place to be.

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  9. Dwelling on the past is pointless. But the future does worry me. Not for myself so much, but for all the inhabitants - humans and animals - especially the animals actually.

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    1. I know what you mean, Wendy, and I think about all that, but I don't spend too much time in the future. I try to concentrate my efforts on what's going on right now. There are wonderful people doing wonderful things in the present time, and my hope is that those efforts improve the future. Future generations will continue to work on improving this world. I like to think so, anyway.

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  10. I do try to live day by day. Being a worrier, I tend to think ahead too much, being a bit neurotic (according to a sister) I also dwell in the past. sigh.

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    1. It's not easy, Christine, to live in the present, and I'm sure you do the best you can!

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  11. Oh Martha...I am afraid I fit into all categories....
    Worry about and fret over many things...
    No regrets....
    But...I do look forward to each new day...
    Enjoy your evening...
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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    1. As long as you look forward to each day, and enjoy it, you are doing great! And from your blog posts, I can see that you are a very happy person!

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  12. I try to live in the present with a optimistic view of the future. Most of the people I know personally who fret seriously over the future are a bunch of drama queens

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    1. Sounds like you're on the right track, Adam. Having an optimistic view of the future is a good thing. I like to do that, too.

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  13. You're in a very reflective mood today. You're lucky you're not a male as young males have a tendency to live on the edge. In fact I know a 75 year old who still lives on the edge. It's living in the moment but we make lots of errors.

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    1. 75 and still living on the edge? Sounds like quite the daredevil. I can only imagine what he was like in his youth!

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  14. So true, Martha. During the day, I try to force myself to sit quietly and just be in the moment for a little while. And I agree that we should all be more existential. I find it hard, though, because although I'm not much of a worrier, I am a planner. It's the only way I can get everything done.

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    1. It's definitely a daily exercise for me, too. I really don't stay long in the past; there's nothing I can change, and what's done is done. As for the future, I wonder about it at times, and stay optimistic, but don't plan too far ahead. In the past few years, a few people I know (around my age) have died earlier than they expected. It has shown me that the future may or may not arrive, and that has cured me of planning too far ahead. I force myself to concentrate on each day as it comes. If it comes. There's no guarantee beyond that, and I don't want to waste whatever time I have on tomorrow.

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