Thursday, October 23, 2014

Hometown Memories: The Pervert On The Bus

My adolescent years consisted mostly of good times. A few bad. And the occasional downright creepy. And one of those creepy moments happened on a city bus that my mother and I boarded on our way to wherever it is we were going so many years ago. The bus was very crowded that day, and we were packed in like sardines in a can. This is pretty typical in a big city, especially during rush hour.

Right behind me there stood a man reaching over to hold onto the same pole I was. Whenever the bus stopped abruptly, he’d bump into me, and when new passengers boarded, he’d lean in closer. At first, I didn't think anything of it; there was hardly any breathing room, after all, and I figured he was just making room for people to get by.

But I was wrong.

I boarded a bus on this corner countless times.

His breathing grew heavy at one point, and the next time he bumped me, he moaned in my ear and rubbed up against me. Shocked, disgusted and outraged, I did what my teenage self thought was the best thing to do:

I stomped the high heel I was wearing right down on his foot with furious force and ground it in...back and forth...back and forth. End of moaning, heavy breathing and inappropriate rubbing. He let out a whimper of pain and quietly slithered away.

High heels make for great self defense weapons. Which this creep learned that day.

Has anything like this ever happened to you?

If a creepy guy rubs up against you, stomp on his instep to cause maximum pain.

35 comments:

  1. That's the unfortunate thing for women, really creepy men in public.

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  2. Good for you Martha! I've had creepy experiences but none like this one!

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    1. I think most women have had some type of creepy experience, particularly if you live (or have ever lived) in a big city.

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  3. Thankfully I've never been in a situation that creepy. Sounds like you put your heels to good use.

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    1. I hope you never experience something like that, Bethany!

      My heels came in really handy that day. I'm glad I was wearing them!

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  4. Good for you for taking care of that creepy guy! What a scary situation.

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    1. It is a horrible experience, but I'm sure he never forgot me after that!

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  5. When I was 14, I was walking home from junior high school with a friend and three men drove by making cat calls. We walked further along the road where it was only trees for about a kilometer. They were waiting for us. It scared the shit out of us. We backtracked a bit to the elementary school and went inside and called my mom who came and got us. She called the police and they told her that they were looking for them. The week before they had chased a girl who, thank god, got away. These men were bad news. You could feel it. It is scary to think what would have happened if they caught us.

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    1. That is horrible! Thank goodness it all turned out okay. There are really awful people out there! It's important to be very careful.

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  6. Oh yes, as a young woman I was groped, fondled, nuzzled and flashed by various creepy men, all furtively done in public places. And also sexually harassed at work (back in the day when that terminology didn't even exist). Luckily, nothing ever progressed to an actual sexual assault. I must have a guardian angel.

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    1. That's a shitload of creepy experiences! So many weirdos out there...bleh...

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  7. I lived outside of town, but my townie friends would sometimes joke about "One dollar! Hit me two times!" There was a guy around who'd say that to the kids. He'd pay you a dollar if you punched him twice as hard as you could - preferably in the groin. As far as I ever heard that was the extent of his perversion.

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    1. Wow, that is really strange! I wonder if he ever got really hurt?

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  8. By the way Debra, nowadays all of those things you describe would be considered "sexual assault".

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  9. Of course you are absolutely right, Anubis. I guess the concept I was trying to express was the older terminology of rape.

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  10. Oh my gosh, the drawing is great. For maximum pain.

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    1. You can cause a lot of pain in that area. It's the perfect place to aim if you feel threatened.

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    2. That's pretty cool and something good to remember. Thanks.

      Still sick but on the mend now.

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  11. You did the right thing to write about this incident. It would be great if all women were able to retaliate immediately like you did. It may bring other people to face incidents they experienced.

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    1. He got what he deserved. I'd do it all over again, except this time, I would draw more attention to him.

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  12. Oh how hideous! No. Nothing like that has ever happened to me. So glad you stomped the crap out of his foot. Geez, what a creep!

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    1. He was horrible. And I was just a young teen, so it really shook me up. But at least I retaliated!

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  13. ugh! so disgusting! and yes. I ride the NYC subway. And you see pretty much everything. Good for you to put an end to that situation!

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    1. I've no doubt you've seen quite a few unusual things in such a big city!

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  14. Eww pervert-disgusting! There was once a guy who'd make a "show" near the fence of my dormitory.

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  15. I never took the bus, what a pervert I hope you hurt so much that he never tried again, mostly I had a car or I took a taxi, I've been hit on badly enough and sickenly enough to wait for the first sign of life yelled at the taxi driver to let me out, and ran like hell and knocked on Macdonalds, where the cleaners were and i called for a taxi that i knew where I lived...I don't wear heals , I fall when I do lol atta girl Martha

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    1. I hope I broke something on his foot! That would have taught him a real lesson. As for heels, I no longer wear them. As I've gotten older, flat, comfortable shoes are the preference! Eventually I'll get into the 'sensible' shoes...LOL...

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  16. Way to go, girl! Don't be a victim! I'm glad that I don't have to ride buses very much! Have a good weekend!

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    1. Yup, fight back, I say, if you can. Thank goodness I was in a very public area, so there was no real threat to me. I bet he remembered me for a long time to come!

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  17. Sorry that happened. Glad you did something about it.

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