Thursday, November 20, 2014

Hometown Memories: Flowers On My Ass

Within the first month of my first year in high school, I realized that I had to make some changes thanks to a couple of crass girls that happened to be walking behind me one day on my way home from school. They were loud and obnoxious and making snide remarks about some of the kids walking along with us. Eventually they noticed me and made some nasty comments about the jeans I was wearing.
No more flowers on my ass after that incident,
but the cheesy home perms endured for many years!

They weren't bad-looking jeans, but they did have cutesy flowers on the back pockets, literally on my butt. And that’s what those girls poked fun at: the 'stupid' flowers on my ass. I’d never really thought of it that way but there it was. I had flowers on my ass.

I ignored them and they repeated the insults a little louder. Harsher. I still didn't answer. Eventually they got bored and moved onto someone else. I sighed with relief. The school was full of bad seeds and the last thing you wanted was to be the victim of bullies. Thankfully it was my one and only such experience.

I did get rid of those jeans after I got home that day, and never wore anything like that again. No more noticeable or whimsical designs. No more flowers on this ass.

Looking back now I laugh at the absurdity of it all. But it wasn't very funny at the time.

Have you ever had an experience with bullies?

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  1. Mean bullies! I'm sure that was the fashion back then, likely just jealous.

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    1. We had some really mean girls in our school. I was lucky that this was the only incident I ever experienced by them. Others weren't as fortunate.

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  2. You were and still are hot and beautiful and slim and these girls were jealous bringing you down a notch or two made them feel better about not being so hot...I swear... I was a very quiet girl, no one ever really bothered me..but sometimes they'd come to me because they forgot some homework and writing was easy for me so I'd write their homework or when I use to be a smoker , people would bum off me, and I didn't mind...then again I was never as hot as you sweetie x

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    1. Thanks, Lorraine. You're always very kind. We had a lot of these types of girls in our school, and I was one of the lucky ones because it was a one and only incident. Other girls weren't as lucky and it was quite sad. Bullying back then was a huge problem; no different than today. But at least now it's more or less being dealt with.

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  3. Look at you, little Miss Cool!
    Yes, I had bullies in my childhood and as an adult. As a child I could handle it and stood up to them. As a teacher/adult I felt helpless with a bully principal. I left that school along with a few other bullied teachers. No help was available.

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    1. That's really sad, Jim, but a reality in the adult world. There are bullies in the workforce, too. Chances are these same people were bullies as kids.

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  4. Funny story (but I'm sure not at the time). Yes, I too was a victim of my mom's awful home perms!

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    1. Those home perms were very popular back then! At least we all looked weird :)

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  5. When I look back there are certain things I wouldn't do or places I wouldn't go. It was probably because of bullies. There were people I avoided. They weren't classified as bullies. Bullies were the people who used physical violence.

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    1. I totally get what you're saying. I think all of us avoided people like that.

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  6. It's interesting when we look back. I remember once my cousins said something about a shirt I'd been wearing but I liked it. But they were mean girls at the time. I didn't really remember it until this post.

    PS: How cute you are you in that photo. So cute.

    PPS: I'm in the movie room now with my little leg up. The sun is all over this Lemon Tart now Xmas room and both pups are beside me. This isn't too bad but at the same time, it's soooo sunny out there that I just want to go couponing and gobble up some fun deals.

    Maybe tomorrow, eh?

    Thanks for all the nice words and encouragement you toss my way. Mighty nice of ya'.

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    1. I'm happy that my words of encouragement do you good. We all need a little of that. I get that all the time here with my photography. Whether the people really mean what they say or not doesn't matter. We take care of each other in this little blogging family. It's a pretty cool world.

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  8. LOL. You really brought back memories. I wore a prom dress with a rose on each breast. My date kept asking me if he could pick some flowers. Hey, it was the 70's!

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  9. Yes, I was bullied at high school. Some kids are just vile. No other word for it. But the worse bully of all was my mother when I returned home from school. Hopeless situation.

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    1. I'm so sorry to hear that, Wendy! On both accounts. But especially about your mother :(

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  10. We had 5 or 6 girls in my high school that made it a point to be mean. To this day I still feel the pain of being bullied by them.

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    1. It never truly goes away, Birdie. I'm sorry you had to live through that.

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  11. Those jeans look current to me...

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    1. They were current at the time! Many, MANY years ago...

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  12. I liked jeans with flowers on the ass. Too bad those girls were such b*tches. I'm sure you looked cute in them.
    I was teased all the time...for wearing a Candies skirt, and mostly for being so short. Kids can be so dang cruel.

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    1. Yes, kids can certainly be cruel. It's not easy getting through school.

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  13. I don't miss middle/high school moments like that. People will find the silliest stuff to make fun of people for.

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  14. School angst. It was such a tough environment wasn't it? And almost everyone was a target at some point. You just dealt with it and moved on.

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  15. Everybody has gone through some "flowers in my ass" experience. Funny you still clearly remember. It's sometimes nice to look back for by looking back you see how things have changed. The good thing is, we often just laugh at some sort of troubles we've been through.

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    1. Yes, we certainly do laugh at some of these things when we get older. I enjoy looking back at some of these memories.

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  16. You are adorable looking and the reason bullies bully is because they aren't ... they feel the need to exercise their snarkiness because that's all they have ....

    Bullies have been found to be very insecure unhappy people ... both young and old ... ! and I say .... hiss ... onem

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    1. You are absolutely right, Carolyn! That's exactly why bullies behave that way; because of insecurities. They still shouldn't do it; making other peoples' lives miserable. Hiss on them, indeed!

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