Thursday, April 9, 2015

Save A Place For Me, My Dear Brother

“When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.”
- Unknown -

This time of year is bittersweet for me. Spring arrives, which is my favourite season, and I feel energized and exhilarated. At the same time, I feel a profound sadness because it marks another year without my brother, Steve, who died 4 years ago today.

Introverted and unassuming, my brother never thought he was very special. But he couldn’t have been more wrong. If only he could see just how much he meant to so many people and just how much we all miss him. Perhaps one day I’ll be able to share his life story and his tragic death - both of which have an important message for this world - but I’m not there yet. In the meantime, I am determined to keep his memory alive. And that's why you see a post about him, now and again. Please bear with me when that happens.

The song below is dedicated with love to my brother who was far more important and far more remarkable than he ever realized.

Always on my mind, forever in my heart.

Have a lovely Thursday, my friends. And thank you for stopping by today.



47 comments:

  1. Oh I am so sorry Martha. Thinking of you and your beloved brother today. Memories of our loved ones are so precious.

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    1. Thank you, Sarah, for you lovely comment. Our memories are indeed precious.

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  2. Awe so sorry for the loss of your brother. It's so important to honor those who have passed on like you have to keep the memories alive.

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    1. It really is important. My brother was such a good soul and I want him to be remembered.

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    1. Exactly what I needed yesterday. Thank you, Debra!

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  4. It's rare here that I shed tears, but i know how much you love him, he's happy now,believe that hold on girl, because i'm holding you tightly x

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    1. You are right, my sweet friend. He was very special. And I'll always keep his memory alive. Thank you for this; for being such a beautiful soul.

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  5. I am truly sorry for your loss Martha.
    May the memory of your dear brother always be a blessing.

    Thank you for sharing about Steve, I know how you must miss him!
    Hugs

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    1. Thank you, Margie. The memories I have of him are my greatest treasure. Thank goodness for that.

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  6. Martha girl ... I also think of you and your brother on this day because it is my wedding anniversary ... those years ago when we talked at such length about your brother and what had happened marked me for life .. I was glad to be a shoulder to lean on if only for that afternoon when the shock was still so fresh.
    I have meant to write an email but you know yourself how that can be ... time has eased this a wee bit and I am glad you can post about it .. it helps I am sure !
    You have some wonderful friends here and that is very special.
    Take care !
    Joy

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    1. Thank you, Joy. You certainly know all the details and how much his death impacted and devastated me. And you have no idea how much I appreciated your support during those tough days, weeks and months. Time has certainly eased things and I find it much easier to share things about him. I will never have all the answers about his death but I don't feel the need to ask the questions as much anymore. I've learned to live with all that. Sooner or later I will get out an email to you. A lot of things going on over here!

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  7. Oh Martha, I am so sorry. I would be honored to read anything you share about him; I can only imagine how hard this is to miss him and to remember him and all his wonderful qualities. Beautiful song to share with us too.

    hugs to you

    betty

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    1. Thank you, Betty; this is such a kind comment and I truly appreciate it. Once in awhile I will post about him but not too often. I want to keep his memory alive but I've also let him go.

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  8. I am sorry for your unimaginable loss. That is a beautiful song, sigh.

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    1. Thank you, Christine. It is much easier now. Time has helped.

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  9. I'm sorry for the loss of your brother. You're doing the right thing by keeping his memory alive.

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    1. Thank you, Red. I will always keep his memory alive. He was so special to me.

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  10. I'm so sorry Martha. Sending love and a hug.

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  11. Beautiful song Martha. Your remembrance of your dear brother is such a lovely way of sharing your love for him with us. We all can share in your loss and honor him and his beautiful soul. Most of us have had similar losses in our lives and we all understand. Take care sweet friend.

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    1. Yes, we all certainly do have similar losses. And by sharing about them, we keep their memory alive. Thank you for stopping by.

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  12. I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been thinking about my husband, so I understand...big hugs!!!

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    1. We all have a pain inside us for the people we've lost. Thank you for stopping by...and for the hugs! Just wanted I needed.

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  13. Yes Martha, when you are ready.
    Losing a family member is very difficult and it takes as long as needed to put into perspective and carry on.
    Big hug/lick for you from the 3 amigos.

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    1. Thank you, Jim. That's exactly what I needed. And it does take time to put things into perspective. Eventually I'll get there.

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  14. Oh, Martha. It hurts so much and it really doesn't get any easier. We just have to learn to live a new normal without our loved ones.

    I am sad that you are hurting. Blessings, dear one.

    And never think we have to bear with you while you write. Instead we will bear you up. xo

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    1. Thank you, Birdie, for this compassionate and beautiful comment. We do indeed learn to live with a new normal once our loved ones move on. One day at a time. xo

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  15. So sorry about the loss of your brother. It's wonderful you keep his memory alive!

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    1. I enjoy keeping his memory alive. He was such a special person. Thank you, Linda.

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  16. Hugs, Martha. So sorry. I wish we didn't have this in common. Losing a sibling is like losing part of yourself.
    Love to you.

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    1. That's exactly what it feels like, Robyn. Thank you for this.

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  17. It is amazing how one life, each life ... touches so many others. Thinking of you today Martha

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    1. "One life, each life...touches so many others." That is so true and so profound. Thank you for stopping by today and sharing this.

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  18. I can not know what you are enduring Martha, but I do believe you are strong so very strong. Whenever I hear this kind of thing happening I think of Jim and his brother(whom I never knew) but I feel I do. He is the only one in his family who has reached that space where he can talk about it and not ignore nor hide his passing.
    I do hope you heal and can find the time to share your story because it is part of your world.
    All the best!
    Ron

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    1. Time does wonders. The first year was very hard and I had a lot of questions. As time went on, it got easier and I began to accept that those questions may never be answered. I'm at a good place now. I miss my brother very much but I've learned to live without him in this world. It was his time to go and my time is still here. My life's mission is not done yet. One day in the future I will share his story; life and death. There is a message for the world in there.

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  19. Where ever is your brother, I'm sure is proud of his sister.

    Hugs

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  20. Very sorry and I wish I could offer you more than just a
    Blogger hug. Thinking of you, thanks for sharing. I get
    what you mean by not being there yet with the rest.

    Totally understandable.

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    1. Blogger hugs are pretty cool, too. Especially from cool bloggers like you. It's been four years and it's much better now. I will never forget but I have moved on. As I must.

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  21. my brother also passed 4+ years ago. each time you share about your brother, I very much admire your strength to write about it. I think that is how I initially stumbled upon your posts. I enjoy your perspective and learn from your humor and easygoing :)
    thank you for sharing, much love.
    MELI

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    1. Thank you so much for this lovely message. I enjoy writing about him. It makes his passing so much easier. As if by keeping his memory alive, I feel closer to him.

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  22. I cannot imagine the pain of losing your brother, Martha! I know that, with ever day I grow older, the day is drawing closer when I will lose a sibling, or they me (easier for me, but not for them). It's unimaginable. I love when you share about your brother. I know from my own memories and experiences that it takes a long time to be able to face such a loss and ever so carefully probe it. I do think that when you think or write about a person, it bring's them closer. I feel my father so close to me as I spend so much time with his writing. It is a painful story, because Dad's life was tragic, and it has taken me a long time to deal with it ~ but the process is so worth it, because I feel like I have my father with me again. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. That is exactly what this does for me, Louise. Every time I write something about him, talk about him, remember him...I feel like he's right here. His death was tragic and shocking, and it took a long time to come to terms with it. I'm at a very good place now and I imagine it'll get even better as time continues to push us forward.

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  23. Somehow I missed this post, though I have seen your wonderful brother mentioned in your series. Sorry to hear of his passing.

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    1. Thank you, Bethany. That's very kind. I miss him but it's much easier now that so much time has passed.

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