Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Question Of The Day

What's a deal breaker when getting to know someone (for a relationship or for friendship)?

There are a handful that would be deal breakers for me but one that rises to the top is treating others badly. So if I meet someone at a restaurant, for example, and he/she is rude and obnoxious toward the staff, I’m done. This is a great indicator of a discourteous personality.

Being polite and respectful toward others is huge for me.

Your turn.

37 comments:

  1. I agree, Martha; being polite and respectful are top on the list for me too. Also, I want someone who tells the truth, so if I catch someone telling lies, that would definitely not interest me in pursuing a friendship/relationship with them.

    betty

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    1. Great choices, Betty! Being truthful is a must.

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  2. Being chronically late is a real turn-off for me. It indicates disrespect for the other's time and needs.

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    1. Oh, good one! This is a real turn-off for me, as well. And you are right that it indicates disrespect!

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  3. Totally agree with you Martha. A pompous attitude is a deal breaker for me. No matter how rich or famous you become, staying humble is a very attractive quality and shows your true colors.

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    1. Even the word pompous is pompous :) Staying humble is something I admire!

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  4. that's probably the one for me too. I can usually tolerate a lot. Though when we first meet someone (especially romantically) everyone acts on their best behavior. Seeing that on day one is a sign of trouble.

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    1. For sure! If someone behaves that way from the beginning when they should be on their best behaviour, imagine what they'll be like later one!

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  5. I like people who are kind. You are right, no need to be mean and rude. Gosh Donald Trump messed up big time. Don't know why he came to mind!

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  6. Yes! One of the lessons my mom taught me is to watch how a man treats a waitress or his mother. I have been on more than one date where that was a deal breaker.

    As for a relationship a few others are smoking, spitting and not recycling.

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    1. Good advice from your mom. How a man treats his mother is something I've also taught my daughters to pay attention to. Very important.

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  7. Re : recycling. In our community we have an amazing recycling program. The only thing that is not recyclable is wrap from meat (the Styrofoam is) and vinyl. There is no excuse for not recycling where I live! If someone doesn't have this type of program I will let it go. :-)

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    1. We have an amazing recycling system here, too, and as a community we fare reasonably well. But it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. I think I can forgive this :)

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  8. The big one for me is if the person is a selfish/all about 'me' type. You may as well not even be there! they seem to to go on and on and on and.....you get the picture.

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    1. I do get the picture! And I've known people like that. A real turn off.

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  9. That's a good one. I usually rely on my Spidey-sense. If it dings red flag, I'm gone.

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    1. For sure! Your instincts are definitely telling you something at that point.

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    2. I don't like thieves and liars, of course.

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  10. I have problems with people doing a monologue. They don't care what you have to say, they just want to hear their own voice...

    Talking about treating other badly; today I was getting in a shopping center and I saw an older man with a cart getting at the door, I was a way off but I saw a women 35 - 40 ish open the door and I was glad to see someone doing a nice gesture. She didn't! She just opened the door wide enough for HER to get out and let go of the door. I almost ran to the door for the man and he was commenting how rude some people are... got my blood boiling grrrr

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    1. Wow, that is awful! Some people don't notice that there is a world beyond them. Things like that get my blood boiling, too!

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  11. You need somebody to be at peace with themselves. This is different than liking themselves or ego.Then they can give their attention to those around them when they are comfortable in their own skin..

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    1. You got it.People who are comfortable with themselves and well-rounded do give their attention to others.

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  12. 'Being polite and respectful toward others is huge for me' ... and for me too!

    All the best Jan

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  13. That's why i didn't throw the salt and pepper shakers around the restaurant when I met you and your hubby!! :D

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    1. Hahahaha! Well, as long as you were nice to the waitress :)

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  14. I'm with you on that. Common courtesy and respect is a biggie.

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  15. Racist remarks is a deal-breaker for me.

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  16. Truth and respect for human beings....it's vital to me,I've been cheated on lied to, gosh the last love i had I fell so deeply for months we were together and he swore he was single didn't have a girlfriend, yeah he broke me again, because finally he told me the truth he was married had been with same woman for almost 40 years and had 2 kids and I want to trust and love again but enough is enough...so honesty TRUTH AND RESPECT....and agree with Lois racism created the Holocaust so anyone who has that seed of racism has the possibily of becoming a monster....again my new blog: http://photographl.blogspot.ca/

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    1. All great points, Lorraine. I think what we all want is being with people who are decent human beings. It's that simple. Life is too short to waste it on people who don't deserve our time!

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  17. on a personal note i am a good listener and speak a bit too slow for some so it doesn't surprise these some have the urgent feel to interrupt me so frequently. it is no surprise i chose to typically not be friends with them and keep my distance, even if they are in our circle of friends. also, if someone has mentioned or tried to correct my/friends/others english pronunciation upon a first-time meeting/talking to them.

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    1. Very good points. Both can be quite frustrating!

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