Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Hometown Memories: The Crank Caller

When I was in high school, there was a girl named Dina that didn't like me. Really didn't like me. I have no idea why. Over 30 years later, I still can't answer that question. It's just one of those mysteries in my life.

Anyhow, so I wasn't her favourite person.. Big deal. I didn't expect everyone to like me, and as long as we left each other alone, it was fine.
Well...

Around that time, a teenage boy starting making crank calls to my home. He'd say some pretty nasty stuff on the phone, ask me derogatory questions or make lurid suggestions. It was pretty alarming.

Instead of freaking out or yelling, I asked him questions every time he called. Why was he doing this? How did I know him? What was he so angry about? If he had a beef with me, why was he hiding behind the phone? Why not confront me in person? And on and on.

As the days went by his tone began to soften, and he started offering information and giving me answers. Eventually the nastiness vanished and he was completely honest and open with me. He confessed that Dina had asked him to call me and be nasty like this.  I asked him why. He didn't know. All she'd told him was that I was a real bitch and that I deserved this and that she needed his help. "But after talking to you" he said "I realized what a nice girl you are and I feel bad doing this." He apologized profusely, said he'd never done anything like this before and felt really embarrassed. Seems his conscience had gotten the better of him.

And it seems like karma had bitten Dina in the face. Or ass. I don't think she ever imagined I'd befriend the crank caller.

(Incidentally, she never bothered me again after that.)

Have a great day, everyone. And be nice. Karma is watching!



38 comments:

  1. You had a lot more patience than I would have had. My Dad taught me how to deal with crank or obscene phone calls. I kept a police whistle by my phone -- you know, one of those ear-splittingly loud ones. Actually, it was my brother's old Scout whistle -- same thing. Then, if you pick up the phone and it's an obscene caller, just put the whistle up to the mouthpiece and blow as loud as you can. That would always prevent future calls. Of course, nowadays "call display" has made such phone calls obsolete (thank goodness) but the anonymous bullying and trolling has moved onto the internet, hasn't it.

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    1. HAHAHA! That is (wonderfully) wicked. I never would have thought of that. Those poor eardrums...

      And yes, sadly the bullying has moved onto the internet.

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  2. You did what I try to do with people. You "killed them with kindness" the boy that was crank calling you. It must have made a big impression on him in his dealing with Dina that she stopped harassing you afterwards.

    betty

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    1. It's possible he told her what happened and it was hard for her to bug me after that. A little embarrassing to be caught red-handed!

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  3. I know people like that....they are just envious and jealous!

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    1. That's usually the case. Along with feeling insecure.

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  4. Wow you handled that so well Martha! That would have scared me no end.

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    1. I was pretty alarmed at first. But I went to a pretty tough high school and these incidences were pretty typical.

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  5. Thanks for sharing your story. You handled the crank calls so well. I probably would've hung up every time.

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    1. That's usually the best thing to do. But I really needed for these calls to stop.

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  6. Sounds like Dina was jealous of you for something. Perhaps you went out or were good friends with a boy she liked.

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    1. Anything's possible, Adam. I never did find out what her beef was with me.

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  7. Martha it just shows what a nice and agreeable person you are! I'm sure your crank caller went on to be a much better person after you charmed him with your kindness. Maybe even mean Dina learned something too!

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    1. I hope they both turned out to be good people. I'll never know, of course, because I have no idea what happened to them.

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  8. Such a good story! Wonder where Dina ended up? Glad she never bothered you again though!

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    1. I've no idea what happened to her. This was so long ago.

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  9. Super quote. People like Dina can bug you for a long time and it's hard to forget what she did. You were really sharp to ask this guy questions. Try that with telemarketers some times.

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    1. There was a time that telemarketers were a real nuisance. Thankfully, we don't get calls like that anymore (at least not many) since we put our number on the do not call list.

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  10. It is so weird! Seems I saw a sitcom--maybe Ellen, back in the 90s?--where a woman tried everything to get someone to like her and nothing worked. It's bizarre when someone just decides they don't like you. But when they take it a step further to bullying behavior, then it needs to be stopped. I feel sorry for people like her. It sounds like she was a very bitter, miserable person. I hope she got past that and learned to focus on the good things in life.

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    1. This was a very long time when we were young and foolish. I hope she's matured since then and turned into a nice person. If she hasn't, that's too bad for her!

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  11. This is exactly the way we can lead this world to Peace.

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    1. I never thought of that, Birdie, but you are right.

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  12. Wow you were such a nice kid. I would have said some really nasty things to that boy on the phone. He probably never would have called back 'cause I would have scared the crap outta him.

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    1. I thought about that but that would have been a bonus for Dina...because it would have proven to that boy what she had said about me: that I was a real bitch!

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  13. Great story. I do indeed believe in Karma!! I'd be afraid not to...lol

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  14. You are awesome my friend!! I hope nowadays she gets more telemarketer calls than the average person! That would be karma!

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  15. oh I like this post, I like this post very much! you amaze me by how strong you are - even at such a young age. I don't believe in many things, but I do believe in Karma. for sure

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    1. I do, too. Best to live a good life and cause as little trouble as possible!

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  16. Good story. You handled the situation very well, and I'm glad it all worked out in the end.

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    1. I'm glad it did, too. And thankfully, I never had to deal with something similar.

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  17. Oh yes, this Dina person felt she could take advantage of you, Martha, for some reason or other. Most bullies will find their opening and start to try to break you down. Good for you for standing your ground but I do realize it must have been frightening for you.
    I have found that bullies themselves have been bullied and it their way to get some power over somebody to make themselves feel more powerful......when in reality they are powerless.
    In junior high I was bullied by a guy so much that one day I laid off and punched him in the face! enough said!!
    Wish I could have done that to a principal when I was teaching.......looking back he was a very lonely and desperate man who felt powerless.

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    1. Wow, that is something! I bet you'd reached your breaking point by then. Bullies have their own insecurities and their own issues they're dealing with. Still. It's completely unacceptable!

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  18. Very good story and I love that sign about it snapping back.

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    1. Just one of those moments in life that sticks in your mind!

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  19. Crank / prank callers..... never had them.
    Had many misscalls on my phone though, which i rarely respond to.

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    1. It's harder now to make crank calls with call display and stuff like that. That's one good thing about modern technology.

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