Wednesday, February 3, 2016

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...fire away a whole bunch of invasive questions.

Being asked an overly personal question once in awhile is not the end of the world, but some people cross that line regularly. The mouth filter is missing and the tact gene was never inherited.

It can be quite exasperating dealing with nosy individuals who don't respect boundaries, especially for someone who is very private. Like me. When I find myself in a situation like this, there are different ways I handle the unpleasant inquiries, but one of my favourites is by asking a question of my own:
"Why do you want to know that?"

This polite way of asking how it's any of their business is usually met with silence, followed by a nervous laugh, a clearing of the throat and an awkward answer. And a smile on my face.

How about you? What annoys you?

30 comments:

  1. Nosy individuals, well they are everywhere aren't they. The less they know, the better!

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  2. Totally understand that would annoy you Martha; you are right, they need to learn a little tact. My biggest one when our dog was still alive is the kids who would come up and want to pet him. I didn't mind it when he was younger as much but as he got older, I just thought he didn't need that, especially when some kids wouldn't pet, but more like hit him. One day a kid came up and asked "can I pet your dog?" I said "no" and then he had the audacity to ask "why?" and I said "because I don't want you to." The kid was about 10 years old. My husband thought I should have had more sensitivity towards the kid. When I was raising my kids, I never had them go up and ask if they could pet someone else's dog.

    betty

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    1. I don't think you were insensitive, Betty. That's an honest and straightforward answer. No means no!

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  3. That's when I think, "Nunyo"...None yo business! Had a feed store that did that to and every one in the family. Had to give directions if I sent someone...don't answer any questions. Finally stopped doing business with them. Have a neighbor like that that waylays grandson on his way out, stops him on the road, and quizzes. NUNYO!!!

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  4. Just tap your fingers...Ah! why do people have to tap, tap, tap when I'm trying to think?! Annoying, but not the most annoying.

    Worse is when people are late or don't show up at all. I hate that. Or when people don't pay their bills--or when they bad-mouth others and say mean things. If people were simply responsible and decent the world would be a better place.

    And I guess I have to be with you on nosy people. I don't mind a little curiosity, but when people are nosy *and* pushy...that's too much.

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    1. Tardiness is a pet peeve of mine, Bethany! I think it's so rude. Being late occasionally is fine but the chronic type is awful.

      And being mean, yes, that is awful! I've no idea why people need to be that way with others. There's no need.

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  5. If you want to annoy me, just start SMACKING YOUR LIPS when you eat!!!
    Not much bothers me, but that, for some reason, does.
    There you have it!

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    1. There's just something about that, Jim, that pushes you over the edge. We all have things that drive us nuts!

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  6. If you want to annoy me ride my bumper so close that I can't see your headlights (oops, sorry about stopping so fast but I thought I saw a squirrel run out in the road).

    If you want to annoy me answer your frickin' cell phone in the middle of a conversation.

    If you want to annoy me leave the toilet tissue roll empty.

    If you want to annoy me assume something I said was about you and instead of asking, "Was that about me" (which it wasn't) and then rip me apart with an over the top character assassination. Oh wait, that didn't annoy me...it pissed me off.....bye bye!

    If you want to annoy me tell me how wrong I am instead of just telling me why you feel different. How are we going to learn from each other if we just attack?

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    1. Wow, a whole list of stuff! I hope you feel better now that you've let it all out :)

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  7. I am annoyed by people who push their way onto elevators before I have a chance to exit.

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    1. Yes! And buses and trains and through doors and and and... Pushy people!

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  8. Same as you... Your reply to that question is fantastic. I must use it the next time I run into this one very nosy acquaintance who always asks way to many personal questions.

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  9. I am annoyed by people who don't do their job and then turn their lack of responsibility into my problem. I am annoyed by people who are late and waste my time. I am annoyed by the overuse of the word, "awesome". -Jenn

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  10. Having been a teacher I had to keep all student info private from others except parents. I was called velcro lips. I do not ask questions but I listen. I probably find out as much or more if I'd asked questions

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    1. 'Velcro lips' What a great term! I've never heard that before. If only more people were like that. And you are right...by listening more, we actually find out more.

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    2. My wife gave me that name because I didn't tell her what was going on at school.

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  11. People that criticize my eating habits. I'm sorry if I don't eat 100% vegetables and drink water exclusively.

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    1. That can be extremely annoying. Everyone should concentrate on themselves.

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  12. Interesting comment by 'Red' ... and one that I would agree with.

    I do like the way you 'deal' with those who overstep the boundary.

    Have a good Thursday

    All the best Jan

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    1. Red's comment is right on. Smart way to be with people.

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  13. I do have answer for this, but I'll be emailing it privately to you.

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