Wednesday, March 16, 2016

Question Of The Day


The insensitive remarks about low income families and the prejudice toward people living in poverty.

Every now and then I run across someone who'll make derogatory remarks about poor people and the children being raised in them. And the remarks are sometimes nastier for children growing up in a low income, single-parent household. What's sadder even is when the individual making these comments is familiar to me. Take, for example, a very old friend of mine who once said to me over the phone All the worst kids come from poor homes, especially if they’re being raised by only one parent.”


I couldn’t believe my ears when she said this, particularly because it hit very close to home. For one thing, I grew up in a poor, working class household and - according to her - should have turned out quite badly. And at the time of the remark, I was a single, low-income earning parent. My own children, therefore, were condemned to a life of substance abuse, crime and turmoil because of our lifestyle. If I shared her philosophy, I’d have thrown in the towel right then and there and let nature take its course. After all, why fight the inevitable? If you’re doomed, you’re doomed.


It’s sad, really, that someone feels this way about human beings in less fortunate situations, most of which are hard working and doing the best they can. Poverty is not a disease and the people involved are no less valuable. We are measured by who we are not by what we have.

What do you personally find deeply offensive?

38 comments:

  1. I find homophobic ignorance offensive, of course. Thankfully though, there's not quite so much of it around as there once was!

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    1. Totally understandable, Debra. At least things are moving forward. I always say that sometimes entire generations have to die off for us to evolve :)

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  2. Good quote by Benjamin Franklin. One of my grandfathers was raised in a very poor, broken home. He had it tough, but worked hard. Now he's happily retired, and he and my grandma just celebrated the 70th anniversary of their first date a few days ago!

    I find unmerited hatred, meanness, and cruelty to any creature most offensive. Some people seem to be mean, hateful troublemakers just for the sake of it (maybe because they have nothing better to do? It's hard to figure). Cruelty is just plain sad and repulsive.

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    1. Wow, 70 years! That is wonderful. I wish them many more together.

      I have a hard time with that, too, Bethany. How do people sleep at night after they've been mean or cruel to any being? I can't understand it.

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  3. I agree. Many people have no clue how difficult it is for some to raise a family.

    Speaking in ignorance is one of my pet peeves. If you open your mouth, I want facts to back opinions not just generalities.

    And I will hush now.

    Provocative post.

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    1. I prefer that, too, Gail. In fact, I often question the source/facts of people who generalize. And since they can never produce one, or show some type of proof, they often become quite agitated. I don't often do this but if someone is mean, racist or aggressive, it can be a lot of fun :)

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  4. I find religious intolerance offensive. And any hatred toward animals.

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  5. I have to agree with you, Martha, that would have bothered me too. We were raised by a single mom due to my dad dying when I was very young and we were poor too, but all three of us turned out just fine.

    Mine is people's perceptions about homeless people. Not all homeless people are drug addicts or alcoholics; they say most people are just a paycheck or two from being homeless themselves.

    betty

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    1. I'm sorry you lost your dad so early in life, Betty. I've no doubt your mom struggled on her own but I can see what a great job she did!

      I'm with you on the homeless people. Many are so quick to judge but this is a very complex social issue, and so varied. Illnesses, job losses, tragic events...so many explanations and so many people struggling. We should be more compassionate and less judgmental.

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  6. I find ignorance offensive and when people talk about things they really have no clue about that's when I tell them to get the facts straight first then yap about it . Thanks for sharing , have a good day !

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    1. So many people are self-proclaimed experts these days, aren't they? Many of them have no clue what the heck they're talking about! LOL...

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  7. Horrible to think how mean people can be...ignorant as Martin Luther said. I dislike mean selfish unkind people.

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    1. Ignorance is definitely a source, Christine. It's quite sad.

      Selfishness is another trait that is very unappealing!

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  8. Selfish people who think only of themselves really bother me.

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  9. How about everything that comes out of Donald Trump's mouth?

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    1. Oh, Birdie... I wonder how in the world he has gotten so far!

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  10. Racism. It is very offensive and shows how ignorant/uneducated the person is.

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    1. One of the worst things in the world, Jim. Isn't it about time we moved past this???

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  11. Rich kids can be horrible too! What about this whole "affluenza" disease?

    My parents divorced when I was six after a very traumatic time so I grew up in a single parent family with mum on a sole parent pension - not much money. I did struggle a lot. Shoplifting and stealing from mum, cutting myself because physical pain was easier to cope with than emotional pain. Smoking. All when I was around eight years old! But I got through it. Things like poverty and absent parents can contribute, I think, to bad behaviour - but so can bitchy rich parents - and I think eventually your real personality will come through.

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    1. The "affluenza" thing is the simply ridiculous!

      I'm sorry you had such a tough time then, Natalie, but I'm so glad you got through it!

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  12. I think the poor thing stems from people who make a bad reputation. Some worthless piece of craps are just attracted to trashy trailers, fighting at walmart, petty theft, among others. The respectable poor people try to not let others know of their problems and issues. I think a lot of people who are considering lower-income consider themselves to be middle class even though their bank account would disagree

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    1. It's always a few bad apples that ruin it for everyone!

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  13. This is a typical example of prejudice. Complete ignorance and insensitivity cause people to be prejudiced. Offensive? those people with inflated egos !

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    1. I totally agree. Ignorance and insensitivity is a horrible combination. The things that people say sometimes is mind-boggling.

      The big fat egos! Yes, those are horrible!

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  14. Anything from the mouth of Donald Trump or Ted Cruz
    Racism, sexism, homophobia, xenophobia, antisemitism ableism, I could go on but I think that's enough...

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    1. WAY more than enough. I honestly never thought he'd get this far. Mind boggling...

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  15. I completely agree with you. I'm offended by pompous asses, no matter the situation.

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    1. I'm with you, girl. Pompous people grind on my nerves. Even the word pompous is...pompous.

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  16. I really despise suicide humor but even then, sometimes I get a little chuckle from certain jokes... so I don't know. I really appreciated your post though. I caught myself thinking bad things the other day about our daycare and backed myself up... we've really come a long way-society wise-toward distancing ourselves from one another. I imagine many, many years ago when we wandered as little tribes, barely human but stuck together and on a team like never before and never again... Sorry, sidetracked. Once again, happy St. Pat's :)

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    1. I lost someone very close to me to suicide, so jokes about it actually upset me. And mental illness. I don't find anything funny about mental illness.

      Your thoughts about tribes is very intriguing! I think sitting down and having a conversation with you would be quite interesting and certainly a lot of fun.

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  17. I find it offensive when humans toss cigarettes out their car windows.

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    1. That is a terrible habit. And I can't stand when they throw out other things, too. Like the world is their personal garbage can.

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  18. I don't think I've ever been "deeply" offended by anything. Are there things I don't like, sure, are there things I hate, sure, but most times I move on because I have way too many personal issues to deal with so other people's bullshit is just a waste of what little time and energy i do have.

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    1. That's a great way to get through life. When people say or do stupid things, wasting time and energy on them is just not worth it!

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  19. I'm with you, Martha! I have a difficult time when people lack understanding and compassion for the poor, especially those who say they brought it all on themselves by the choices they made in life. I often think, "There but for the grace of God, go I"; but that upsets me too, because why should God favor me over others?

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    1. Poverty is a very broad issue and certainly very complex. It's a little (or a maybe not so little) ignorant to generalize like that. Actually, it's ignorant to generalize about any social issue! In my humble opinion...

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