Tuesday, April 26, 2016

You Asked, I Answer (Déjà vu, All Time Favourites and Dangerous Things)

Another week, another bunch of answers to questions from this year's 'Ask Me Anything’ post.

And away we go...

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Ron asked:
Do you ever have "deja vu"? with smells/sounds/tastes and if so one that is so prominent that it appears in dreams and every day life!!

It only happens occasionally now but earlier in life, from my childhood up until my late thirties or so, I used to have déjà vu experiences quite often. It was especially prevalent during my teen years, and although certain smells, sounds and tastes would trigger it, it would happen mostly in the outdoors. For example, I’d be walking down a street and WHAM déjà vu. Or I’d be opening a door to enter a building and BAM déjà vu. Sometimes it would happen when I was riding the bus or talking to someone on the sidewalk or hanging out with friends. There were many moments and places and conversations that seemed familiar and repetitive. And sometimes these unusual and peculiar experiences would occur while I was asleep. I’d have dreams that didn’t feel like dreams but rather like memories, and I’d wake up feeling like I’d been at the place I’d dreamt of before. Logically, I knew that I hadn’t been there before, but the place was inexplicably familiar, and the dreams would reoccur and continue, adding to the story. The one thing that does stir something deep inside me is being near the water, especially big bodies of water like the ocean. The sounds, sights and smells of these locations awaken emotions in me that I can’t quite define and try to bring memories to the surface that I can't quite reach. They seem to transport me to another time, another place.


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Bethany asked:
What are your all time favorite tv series, books, and movies?

Since the mid 90s, I’ve rarely if ever watched live TV, so whatever I’ve seen since then has been done by binge-watching series. But there are shows from my youth that stand out. For example, as a child I was head over heels in love with the dog, Lassie; watched every episode, cried a river of tears whenever that beautiful animal was in any kind of danger and would have taken on every chore in the house if only my parents would have allowed me to have a dog like that (it never happened). I was also a huge fan of Sesame Street, The Flintstones, Romper Room, The Bugs Bunny Road Runner Hour, Mr. Dressup (Canadian show), The Pink Panther, Spider-man, Batman and The Friendly Giant (also a Canadian show); just to name a few.

Some comedies that come to mind from my young(er) days include The Munsters, Gilligan's Island, The Beverly Hillbillies, The Carol Burnett Show (LOVED THIS!), The Brady Bunch, Get Smart, Green Acres, Monty Python's Flying Circus, All In The Family, Happy Days, Diff'rent Strokes, The Jeffersons, Sandford and Son, Three's Company, The Facts of Life, One Day at a Time, Taxi, Laverne and Shirley, WKRP in Cincinnati, Chico and the Man, Cheers, The Golden Girls, Family Ties, Who's the Boss?, Mork & Mindy, Soap, Ellen, Night Court, Home Improvement, Seinfeld, Night Court, The Odd Couple and Welcome back, Kotter, etc.

A few other shows in my earlier years include Bonanza, Adam-12, Charlie's Angels, The Waltons, The Six Million Dollar Man, The Love Boat, Fantasy Island, The Twilight Zone, Batman, Star Trek, Ironside, Miami Vice, Wonder Woman, MacGyver, The X-Files, Knight Rider, Thirtysomething, Moonlighting, Little House on the Prairie, Starsky And Hutch, Emergency!, The Streets of San Francisco, The Incredible Hulk, Kung Fu, Quincy, M.E., Columbo, Night Gallery, The White Shadow, The Bionic Woman, Kojak, The Littlest Hobo, Hart to Hart, Falcon Crest, Dynasty, Highway to Heaven and so many more.

I can list a whole bunch of others but let’s stop here because this is spinning out of control!

Although I’ve seen many, many movies in my lifetime, I can’t say I have any favourites, although films like The Green Mile, E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial, To Kill a Mockingbird, Schindler's List, The Godfather, The Shawshank Redemption, The Matrix, Back to the Future, The Silence of the Lambs, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, A Beautiful Mind, The Sixth Sense, 12 Years a Slave, Rocky, The Ten Commandments and The Life of PI are some I’d watch - and have watched - more than once.

As for books, that’s like asking me which is my favourite child. I read books at the rate that I inhale oxygen. Often and out of necessity. I can’t get enough, and although I could probably list some recommendations, it would take several pages. And who has time for that?


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Birdie asked:
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done.

When I was about 11 years old, a man in his middle years had been following me to and from school one day. And on my way back to class after lunch (we used to go home for lunch), he walked up quickly to me, crowding me, saying things like “Help with the baby” and “We must hurry” and “The baby is sick” and on and on and on. As he spoke rapidly with desperation and nervousness in his voice, he also corralled me in a certain direction, right toward the entrance of a multi-unit building. Next thing I knew, I was walking into this triplex with this man right behind me. The door slammed shut, the world was left behind and the sudden understanding that I was in danger was so blatant, I struggled to breathe. I don’t think I’ve ever felt more terrified in my life.

The rest of the story is for another time but needless to say that since I’m in the here and now, things turned out well for me. Following that man into that building instead of running away screaming and calling for help is the most dangerous thing I’ve ever done. It is also the darkest and most haunting moment of my childhood. And something I kept secret until I was much older, mostly because I was afraid I'd get blamed (kids think it's always their fault) and also because I suppressed the memory because it was so traumatizing.

Every day since that day is a gift. Because I might not have been here.



And that wraps up another week of questions answered...save for one. Because I always save the most thought-provoking one for last. Check back next week for that. And if you haven't seen your question addressed, it may be because you haven't visited when the post for it was uploaded (shame on you! haha). Check the original post for a link to it.

Thank you to everyone for stopping by. Have a great day!

30 comments:

  1. I wonder if there is a loss of some "sensory" aspect as we age that once gave us the illusion of "deja vu"? That is true of me, also, that when I was younger, I occasionally felt those types of experiences but never in recent years.

    I never really thought about how much time I have spent in my life watching TV and movies. I have watched all those (with the expectation of the Canadian shows)and probably a gazillion others. Dang..I probably could of done great things with all that time, had I not parked my fanny in front of a television.

    As for books, I too am a voracious reader. I would never be able to pick a favorite book...I can't even pick a favorite genre.

    I look forward to hearing more about your "scary" story. While I hate that you had an event that was traumatizing in your childhood, I am equally glad you are here and in a good place....Thankfully, we can be assured that you came out of whatever bad thing it was.

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    1. It would sense that there are changes in us as we grow older that would affect the deja vu. Everything else falls apart, why not that? Just(kind of kidding) :)

      Books! I could not imagine a world without them. I've been reading since I could put two words together. And even before that, I'd look at the pictures and make up stories. I enjoy all types and also could not pick a favourite genre, although I do love a good mystery with a great ending!

      I got SO lucky that day that just thinking about it freaks me out! It couldn't have ended up so differently.

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  2. Oh wow, Martha, that gave me goosebumps reading about your most dangerous thing. I just can't imagine and then to keep it a secret for so long.

    So many wonderful TV shows you listed from the past. They just don't make those types of series these days I think (and maybe that's why you don't watch TV :)

    betty

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    1. I never told a soul, not even my parents. My dad passed away in 2007 never knowing, and my mom who is turning 80 this year still doesn't know. And at this period there's no reason to tell her. I just don't see the point. Thankfully, everything turned out fine!

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  3. Oh, my gosh, that sounds like a terrifying time from your childhood! I am thankful you are here.

    Deja vu is one of the weirdest and most fascinating of feelings/senses.

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    1. I find it a very interesting subject. There are theories but there is so much we just don't know!

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  4. Oh les shits (excuse my french) Martha, I am speechless by your experience. As you know, In Quebec there has been a lot of child abduction that end up so horribly, I'm so happy you made it out. But just one thing I like to say: It is NOT the most dangerous thing YOU have ever done, you were a child, it is something that was done to you!

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    1. Thank you for that, Richard! You are absolutely right. No child is ever at fault. But now you can how I kept it a secret. I'm 51 years old, which means this happened 40 years ago. And yet, that 11-year-old is still telling the story...with guilt and self blame! I totally understand how some children are afraid to tell.

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  5. Your dangerous experiences is so scary Martha

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    1. It was, Christine. But I'm grateful everything turned out okay. I was lucky.

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  6. Oh, I'm looking forward to next week's post VERY MUCH!

    I've noticed too that my deja vue experiences are much rarer now that I'm aging. Maybe my tired old brain can't just produce them any more, LOL!

    Thank goodness you got away from that horrible man. There is no lower form of life than child molesters, in my opinion.

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    1. That's my opinion, too, Debra. There is no lower form of life than that. Period.

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  7. Deja vu....yes, me too and still do occasionally.
    What a scary thing for you to have experienced Martha! Happy you are here to tell us about it.

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  8. Oh, Martha! I had a similar terrifying incident. My best friend and I were walking home from junior high school when four men in a car wolf-whistled at us. We walked further down the road and they were waiting for us. If we had walked 150 metres further down the road there was nothing, only forest. Luckily we were near an elementary school so we back tracked and called my mom who came and got us. When she drove up the car was spitting gravel and tore off. My mom called the police when we got home and the police had been looking for them. They had been luring young girls.

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    1. What a terrifying experience! Thank goodness you girls weren't hurt!

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  9. Sometimes when we look back we recognize the extreme danger we were in. I don't know how any farm kids survive. It's danger every day.

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  10. Past life memories? I have some memories that don't fit my life. Mom and Dad told me the things/the places I knew were not possible yet they were.

    I am a total Lassie fan!

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    1. There are things we simply cannot explain! And they are quite fascinating.

      Oh, Lassie ♥♥♥

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  11. I really enjoyed reading this post. I guess because we are both Canadian gals of similar ages, we have many of the same favourites. I agree with Richard's comment. You were young. It sounds like you were lured by a predator, or someone with psychological problems. NOT YOUR FAULT.
    Like you, I had many more deja vu moments when I was younger. However, these days, I feel like there are more things I don't remember!! -Jenn

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    1. Thanks, Jenn! It definitely was not my fault; if only I'd felt that way as a child. But at least I'm safe!

      HAHAHA... I laughed with your last line because it's the same with me. I seem to be forgetting more as I get older.

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  12. Thank you so much for taking the time to answer our questions, Martha! It is fascinating learning more about you. Looks like a great list of favorite series! I will have to return to take a look again when I'm ready to start my next series...sometimes it seems I'm running out of good ones. Right now I'm working through The Rockford Files on weekends, and watching a few Pink Panther episodes on weekdays when I feel like watching something short.

    Your dangerous experience does sound very scary. I'm glad you survived.

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    1. Well, thank YOU for participating, Bethany. I have to say it's been a lot of fun and I'll have to do it again next year. The questions make me think about things I don't think about very often and that's interesting and refreshing.

      I used to watch the Rockford Files! Another one on my list. I hope you're enjoying the shows; they were good. It sounds like we watched a lot of television back then but we actually didn't. Most of these show spanned over several years and we watched mostly on rainy days or in the evenings. We spent the majority of the day outdoors!

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  13. I think you've mentioned you'll haven't started Game of Thrones. I originally thought the series would be way different, but it's beyond anything you can imagine. I thought I liked stuff like Spiderman and Star Wars, but nothing has compared to my love for the show.

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    1. We started last night and I'm hooked! It was a toss up between Game of Thrones and The Walking Dead. We settled on Game of Thrones and I'm so glad we did. Looks like a great series; very original.

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  14. I get the odd feeling of deja vu, I had one just the other day whilst writing. It's funny, I can dream things, think they happened, and then find months or a year down the track they are actually happening. Weird. Or may that's called premonitions..... ooohhh spooky...

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