Friday, August 26, 2016

Friday

So the weekend is here once again. What are your plans? Ours include a visit with my baby girl who is all grown up and getting ready to start her second year in university. She never returned home after year one; opting instead to live year round in Ottawa. I miss having her here, of course, but she is very happy in her new city. We'll be driving up to see her this weekend and I'm very excited about that.

I asked her earlier this week if she was free for a visit and we worked out a time where she could fit us in. She's a social butterfly and you have to schedule a visit!

She asked me at one point: "Is there a particular reason you're coming?"

Me, in my head: "Because I miss you terribly and the house is not the same without you and the vibrancy and energy you added here is gone and it seems like forever since we've seen you and as a new school season begins I reminisce about when you were little and it tugs at my heart and I wonder where all those years went and miss waiting for the school bus with you and making your lunch and putting your school artwork on the fridge and reading you a bedtime story and kissing you goodnight and I just can't believe how grown up you and your sister are and that you've both moved out and that we're truly empty nesters and most of the time I'm okay with it because this stage of life is kind of nice but occasionally I'm not okay with it all..like today..."

Me, out loud: "We just want to see you, sweetheart."

My daughter: "Okay."

Motherhood. No one said it was going to be easy.

Well, at least I'm not doing this to my cats:


Yet.

Have a wonderful weekend, everyone!

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  1. "Well, at least I'm not doing this to my cats" -- YET!!!! Enjoy your visit with your daughter!

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    1. The cats sleep with one eye open these days, Debra! LOL...

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  2. Haha funny. I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum as both my kids chose to commute to schools that are only 15 and 25 minutes away. I suspect they will never leave the house. I might move out before they do.

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    1. HAHAHA! That is indeed the opposite end of the spectrum!

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  3. lol Martha, soon enough you will be doing this to your cats! Yes, I empathize with your pain.

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    1. You can't help but miss those early days when they were so little!

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  4. Our daughter never came home after first year either. Ya just gotta let them grow up!

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    1. Absolutely! I'm very proud that both my girls were confident enough to go out and live!

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  5. Have a lovely time with your daughter. I've only just managed to have a phone conversation with mine last night. That poor cat... -Jenn

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    1. Modern technology makes it easy to keep in touch. I like to use Skype with my daughter.

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  6. I had the same feeling when my kids left the house. They did help me bit by staying home the first year after high school. After they left, when they came home for a weekend it was always noisy and very quiet after they left.

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    1. It's shocking how quiet a house gets when the kids are gone. They add so much life to it!

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  7. Oh Martha, I so love this post-with your sweet honesty and then that hilarious touch of humor at the end! I'm so glad to have connected with you in the blogiverse! I hope it's a wonderful visit :o)

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    1. Thanks you, Hannah! That's very kind. I'm so grateful to have met you. I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

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  8. Have a great visit with your daughter! If I could, I would go back in time to the time the kids were still here, even through the bad times. The years go by so fast.

    Betty

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    1. I'd do the same, Betty. The years do go by much too fast!

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  9. Wow, that poor cat! Enjoy your visit!

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  10. That is not a content looking cat. Have a great weekend.

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  11. I am just working this weekend. Nothing exciting.

    I miss my kids.

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    1. They grow up and grow away, Birdie! The cycle of life...

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  12. Love the photo! When my kids both left home, I felt the same way about my dog. I'm visiting my son this weekend! Enjoy the time with your daughter.

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    1. I hope you had a nice visit with your son, Linda! It's wonderful spending time with our kids.

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    1. It was really nice. And I hope it was for you, too.

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  14. i just love your way of expression Martha really glad i have you in blogging world your heart is so pure

    i miss my son too and he coming over to join one of our religious celebration and we whole family are glad to and excited to see him
    hope you have great time with you daughter dear

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    1. Oh, Baili, you are so kind! Thank you for this lovely comment. I hope your visit with your son is (was?) wonderful. You have such a beautiful family.

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  15. Oh Martha, over the years so many have been in this situation ...and the way you've desrcibed this is just perfect.

    We do have to let them go and grow ... but as many mums and dads know you think about them so often, and still worry about them at times...but I wouldn't have it any other way.

    The laughs, the love, the time together is precious - go and enjoy a wonderful weekend.

    All the best Jan

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    1. You never stop being a parent, Jan, no matter what age they are. And yes, we do have to let them go and grow. That is so important! I hope you had a wonderful weekend.

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  16. I remember when our kids were away at school and keeping so busy...you do have to schedule your visits. Sigh...it all goes by so quickly.

    Hope your visit is great fun.

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    1. They have their own lives now and we have to fit ourselves somewhere in there!

      It sure does go by quickly. Too quickly!

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  17. Just remember all college kids don't want to see their parents at some level. Just be thankful she's letting you come over and so easily

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    1. That is true for many, Adam. They are so busy doing their own thing. Thankfully, I don't have that problem. My daughter is always happy to see us!

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  18. Heh! That last meme and your introduction to it had me laughing! Hope you had a good trip! I spent the weekend with a sister and brother at a chess tournament. It was fun, but I'm so glad to be home again and to see the rest of my family.

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    1. That sounds like a lovely time, Bethany. It sounds like you have a very close and loving family; the greatest blessing! I am the same with mine and I'm so grateful for that. We all get along wonderfully and love getting together.

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  19. Your words are so true and right on the money, Martha! I love reading all you have to say to us! It helps to know one is not alone in the feelings! Thank you for your perceptions!

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