Thursday, September 29, 2016

All Peopled Out

I have days like this:


Today is one of those days. My introverted blogging pals will understand this and the need to be absolutely in hermit mode for as long as it takes to recharge the internal batteries. Yesterday I had my fair share of people-ing. I spoke to people, I smiled at people, I circulated with people. Most of them were nice. Some of them were not so nice. And some wouldn't smile if their life depended on it. How do people go through life being so miserable and nasty? I just can't understand it. It must be utterly exhausting.

Anyhow, today is summarized by this:


People, people everywhere... I don't have the energy for them. So I'm not going to people today. I'm battening down the hatches and shutting them all out. Maybe I'll hang some garlic around the windows and doors in case they try to force their way in.

Ever have days when you just can't people?

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  1. Sorry, Martha...the garlic didn't work! You forgot to put some around your computer...I made it through!!!
    Take it easy and enjoy the peace 😊

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    1. Perfect word for it. Get all the people-ing out of your system!

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  3. I totally understand! Have a nice day of solitude to renew and refresh. We'll talk when you feel like people-ing again.

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    1. I'm much better today, Cheryl. My batteries are fully loaded again :)

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  4. I totally understand, crowds begone!

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  5. Just about everyday. And I don't even have to see people to be all peopled out.

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  6. I can't people pretty much every day. But I have a question: Does not smiling mean that people are mean and nasty, or did the non-smilers also give off a nasty vibe or make unkind remarks? I'm not a smiler. It tenses the muscles in my face and gives me a headache. I hate it when people tell me to smile, especially because I've never heard anyone tell a man to smile. I hope my comment doesn't add to your people allergy. I wish you the best.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Smiling doesn't just happen with the mouth. You can smile with your eyes! When I mean non-smiling people, I mean people who have no cheer inside them whatsoever; no warmth, no friendliness. Sometimes they are abrupt or rude, sometimes it's just a look in the eyes. The eyes tell all, Janie!

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    2. You're right. When I met Willy Dunne Wooters, he smiled at me and he smiled with his eyes! I was smitten.

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  7. On days like that ... put the kettle on and have a tea or coffee, pick up your favourite book and enjoy some peace and quiet.

    All the best Jan

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  8. I totally understand. I need that alone quiet time. Love my hubby dearly, but the 4 years he wasn't working a regular schedule just about killed me, even though he was not "in my way" so to speak, but missed that alone time I desperately need. Not sure how we are going to handle retirement :)

    I hope your day is a peaceful quiet one!

    betty

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    1. We all need a little time to ourselves, Betty, to recharge our batteries. Even from the people we dearly love!

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  9. I must "people" with my job, but when the work day is over, I want solitude (or at least just my family). I love quiet as well. I understand how you feel. -Jenn

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    1. Work does include a lot of people-ing in some cases but once the day is done you can get away from it all!

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  10. At my work I often say

    there are busy days

    and there are slow days

    and then there are dumb motherf#@@! days

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  11. I hear ya, girlfriend. Good for you for taking a break from people-ing.

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    1. We need people-less days sometimes, Robyn! I hope you are well.

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  12. Yes, I'm somebody who can stay in the bush for many days without seeing anybody. I hate shopping and shopping malls. Now in reality I have to mix with people ,but on my own terms.

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    1. We have no choice but to mix with people sometimes but we have periods when we can escape all that!

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  13. I don't hate people. i just don't like crowds. So i stay at home during most major holidays.
    Oh, ok, i may hate a lot of people too.
    it's so peopley! (i may use this again)

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  14. I/we hear you loudly and clearly, Martha!!
    Sometimes this is so necessary......good for the soul.
    Since I am a 'people', you don't have to reply.

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    1. It is indeed good for the soul. And our sanity! LOL...

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  15. Oh, yes, many days! I am very introverted, and being around people drains me. I don't deal with a constant flow of people at my job, but people are walking by my office, calling to each other, the phone is ringing, people are showing up at my door, etc. I feel just plum peopled out by the time 5 o'clock gets here. Thank goodness my husband is an introvert too--he understands!

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    1. We do need that time to recharge, Tina. My husband is also an introvert, so we totally get each other!

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  16. Pretty much daily. I start out okay but by 3:00 I am done. Which isn't great for my family.

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    1. You spend a lot of time with people on your job, Birdie, so I can just imagine how much it drains you!

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  17. With everything I've gone through I completely get how some people can always look miserable or never smile.

    I see a lot of "people" on instagram, FB etc attack others for their comments calling them 'miserable a*holes', 'they must have a sucky life if they can leave such comments on other people's pages' etc. But what they don't actually get is, is that people DO have miserable lives and attacking them (as people do on social media) instead of showing a bit of compassion, just makes the whole thing worse. What if someone went and killed themselves (as some have) because of what was said to them?

    I also know that I can look miserable and depressed even when I'm not. Some of us just happen to have that kind of face shape. Like Michelle Obama, to me she always looked angry and patronising because of her forehead/brows, but it's just her bone structure and face shape.

    On top of that, if people ARE miserable then there's a reason for it, so I try not to judge too much these days. And I completely get the whole "walk a mile in their shoes" thing. I've walked more than a mile and believe me, life ain't fun for some of us. It's miserable and depressing and can get us down and make us miserable and depressed.

    So to answer your questions of - "1-How do people go through life being so miserable and nasty? 2-I just can't understand it. 3-It must be utterly exhausting."

    1-We can't help it if our life is miserable and depressing, it's just the way it is and the issues crawl their way into our pores and find their way into our hearts and minds. For some of us, it's called life.

    2-It's hard to understand if your life has never been as bad as others. If my life was awesome I probably wouldn't understand it. Not everyone breezes through life but I wish to god I did.

    3-it is, believe me. Absolutely, utterly, exhausting. It sucks every ounce of blood, sweat and tears from us. It drains us mentally, emotionally and physically and keeps on draining us to the point we think we can't go on. But we do, not happily, and definitely not to "other people's standards", but we do the best we can.

    You just never know what's going on in someone's mind or life if you don't know them or their story. Not everyone has the ability to black out the bad and only see the good. I call that denial. I look at what happens to women and girls in Africa and thank god my life is not that bad. But I also see that millions have lives far better than mine and don't think that's bloody fair. I feel left out and left behind which sucks so bloody much, but I'm better off than other people in the world. What it comes down to is that we all live our own lives and no one else's, so we all have our own story. Miserable and depressed or not.

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    1. These are all great points and I agree for the most part. People can be dealing with difficult things, which makes it hard to get through the day, sometimes through the hour. But as patient and understanding as I may be, there is one thing that I will not stand for and that is to be someone's punching bag. Since I am not the cause of someone's troubles, I don't see why I should be attacked over it. When I walk up to a cash register and the cashier doesn't want to smile or tell me to have a nice day or say thank you, that's okay. I don't really care. We can carry out the transaction quietly and go our separate ways. But what I won't put up with is him/her aggressively tossing my purchases into a bag, giving me dirty looks or shoving things at me. That is not venting about life; that is being nasty and abusive and I won't accept it. I've run across situations like this many times throughout my life and I mostly walk away from them. But many years ago, one woman was so bad that I called over her manager (first time I'd ever done that!) and lodged a complaint. To stand in front of her while she was being so mean and nasty and aggressive with my children next to me was more than even I could handle. My life is not perfect and I’ve dealt with my own fair share of difficulties throughout it but I’ve never ill-treated strangers or been mean and nasty when I’m out and about. And if I ever had been, I’d expect that people would not put up with it and push back and tell me to f-off. An unhappy person doesn’t mean a nasty person. The two don’t always go hand in hand. And like I wrote, I will not be someone’s punching bag.

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  18. I know exactly how you feel. I can't people most days, have forgotten how to people, and have no real interest in becoming a people person. Being a hermit sounds much more pleasant...and if it wasn't for my stupid job I'd be content to live that life. I don't even like reading the news because its always about bad people, and then I start to wonder if there are any good people left...

    but there are. I'm just too mentally exhausted to look for them, and too socially awkward to interact with them. (except on Blogger)

    The Pedestrian Writer

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    1. Blogger is the best, isn't it? I don't feel like I'm people-ing too much when I'm people-ing with fellow bloggers :)

      Thanks for visiting, Christ, and for leaving a comment. I'll have to pop over to your blog for a visit!

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  19. More and more often!

    Have a blessed weekend.

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    1. Thanks, Gail. I hope you are enjoying a wonderful weekend!

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  20. Hope you enjoyed your people-break.

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    1. It was great. People-less days are sometimes absolutely necessary.

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