Thursday, October 6, 2016

Words Of Wisdom


Like we needed any more reasons to love Adele.

I grew up in a community where men were considered superior and women were expected to serve them. This was enforced in the households and in the churches we attended. For those of you who have followed my blog long enough, you just know that this nonsense didn't go over well with me and that I rebelled against it with every ounce of my being. It wasn't easy to stand against the status quo but it was necessary. I have no regrets and I would do it all over again if I had to.

Years later I was blessed with two daughters that I encouraged to expect nothing less than respect from the world around them, particularly from their partners. Equality was a common word in our household and sexism was a regular topic of discussion.

Both girls have grown up with a strong voice against a patriarchal society that, unfortunately, still exists today. But even though the fight for equality is not over yet, there are two young women that I've proudly brought into this world that are continuing to pave the road. And who do not respond to sexist, derogatory whistling; an objectification of women.

A terrific day to all!

38 comments:

  1. When I was 12, I wolf-whistled at a boy riding a bike and my auntie scolded me for unladylike behaviour.

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    1. Good for your aunt. She should have pulled your ear :)

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  2. I am with you! I also don't like being called 'baby', super offensive and uncool!

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  3. Love that quote!!!
    Your daughters had an intelligent female for a teacher/mother~

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  4. Go Adele! Totally agree with this quote.

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  5. You can count my daughter in with your two. I raised her to believe that she should follow her passions, and she has. Her work is in a man-centric field, but she's claimed her place. I love the Adele quotation.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Good for your daughter, Janie! And good for you. You did a wonderful job.

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  6. That is a great Adele quote. I remember years ago working for a cardiac surgeon who happened to be a woman. At the time (more than 30 years ago) the field was male dominated. She had to work really hard to get noticed. One time another surgeon even had her wear a sign that said "I'm not a nurse" because people assumed she was a nurse and not a doctor. It is refreshing that nowadays women are in every single practice of medicine :)

    betty

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    1. I'm so grateful for all those changes, Betty. Imagine how hard it was for women in previous generous who wanted to pursue fields like that.

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  7. My daughter won't let anybody get away with demeaning behavior. She speaks up and I'm proud of her. In university she came across Ezra Levant in one of her classes. I think she gave Ezra a rough time but it didn't do Ezra any good.

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    1. That is wonderful about your daughter! You obviously raised her right. As for Ezra, I don't think anything or anyone can do him any good :)

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  8. I think young women today often have a better sense of self and stand up as an equal participant in whatever endeavor they are in. My daughter is very self-assured and works in a senior management position. I can't imagine someone objectifying her without there being consequences. I think all people...men and women never should allow people to treat them badly.

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    1. I totally agree, Cheryl. Men and women should expect to be treated with respect.

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  9. I think you've done a great job raising your two daughters. Thankfully this generation doesn't have to deal with the huge gaps in equality that perhaps their grandmothers did. -Jenn

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    1. Things are much better for women now. There's still work to be done but at least we've progressed!

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  10. My parents and I often had arguments over these ideas in my teen years...my mother hated the word feminist, yet she raised one...hurricane weather here today...

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  11. The honest truth is that all men stare at pretty women, especially the ones that just "stand out". But I always think it's ridiculous how men talk to women. Daisy's cousin got a whole bunch of "hey baby" lines when she went to Walmart after we got done with her aunt's wedding. Certainly two places to never find a legitimate date, walmart or a bar.

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    1. True, Adam, and generally speaking looking at someone that interest you is not a big deal. But ogling or whistling or cat calling...that's degrading. We all look at people but we don't have to behave like morons!

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  12. I grew up in the same kind of communities ~ Men were catered to in all kinds of ways, like being served the choicest parts of prepared meals. My great grandmother would always give the boys pie or cake for snacks and the girls bread and butter. But she did point out to me that boys would always be boys, and it was women who ruled the roost! Have a good one!

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    1. I'm glad things are changing, Louise. In the past, women would get paid much less than men for the same job and the explanation given was that men should feel like men with their higher wages and stuff. So dumb. Mind you, women are still not getting equal pay everywhere, so we're still fighting this fight.

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  13. It's funny, men used to really give me the shits with everything they do and every now and then I still want to punch some of them in the head. Sadly, now, I want to punch more women in the head for how pathetic they've become, but that's just me, lol.

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  14. Adele's quote reminds me of Maria in The Sound of Music when the Captain introduced her to his method of whistling for everyone in the family. Maria said, Whistles are for cats and dogs, but not for children, and definitely not for me! And I think even then the Captain was whistling in more appropriate way then Adele is referring to.

    I don't know how much U.S. news you listen to in Canada, but this election has become so inappropriate with the release of terrible tapes of Trump's remarks from years back objectifying women in the worst way. How Trump has treated women is pretty much the last straw for me on him. And Clinton's husband doesn't have a good reputation either. I don't know what I'm going to do come voting day.

    That's not the only sexist-related dilemma I've had occasion to contemplate lately either. The women's world chess championship is being held in Iran this year, and Iran is forcing all the women to wear hijabs. The U.S. champion is refusing to participate under those rules. Is she doing the right thing? That took some thought. In the end my personal conclusion was that if she were only representing herself she'd be doing fine to just wear the hijab and play (it doesn't seem like such a big deal), but since she's representing our country (not herself and not Iran), I think she's doing the right thing.

    But I suppose there are other ways to look at it. At least I don't run out of subjects to contemplate!

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    1. I know exactly what you're referring to with 'The Sound of Music'. I've seen that movie several times! And we're way overdue to watch it again. Marie is absolutely right.

      Typically, I don't pay too much attention to the U.S elections but this one seems to be overflowing into our country and in countries throughout the world. You just can't seem to get away from it. News about the two candidates is everywhere and in all my years, I've never seen such a spectacle. It's turned into a reality TV show in the worst possible way and I can certainly understand the dilemma you're in. I sympathize! There have been election years where both primary candidates have been very unappealing and I've been forced to choose a third party.

      That is a tough position to be in for that champion and a big sacrifice for her when it comes to the game. But I completely understand her decision. I support a woman's right to choose: the right to wear a hijab and the right not to wear one. What I don't support is forcing a woman to wear one or forcing her to remove it. So perhaps I'd do the same thing under those circumstances. I don't know. It is certainly thought provoking!

      In any case, it is wonderful that you contemplate things. You learn and grow!

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    2. Thanks for your thoughtful reply, Martha! I always check back to see what you say...and I appreciate the time you put into it.

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  15. They might whistle to get help (or not). Hahahahahaha!

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