Friday, February 3, 2017

This Week

It’s been a busy one for us with the upcoming move. That’s to be expected. But because we started packing and sorting and organizing and recycling and donating immediately after 2017 rolled in, it has been pretty much smooth sailing in that department. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in all the moves I’ve done throughout my life, it’s this: don’t wait until the last minute!

One good thing about moving is being able to purge the clutter. Before I pack an item I ask myself: "Do I like it? Do I need it? Will I ever use it? Do I feel like packing/moving it?" If the answer to any of these questions is no, out it goes. And because I’m a minimalist, every time something gets removed from our home, I feel an abundance of joy. And I swear I hear a bell ringing, too. Perhaps an angel is getting its wings whenever I get rid of crap stuff. *snort*


So... Facebook. Are any of you on it? I’m a member but not a very active one. I joined to connect with family and friends, many of which live far away. And most of the people I’m connected to or stumble across are quite nice. Even if they have a strong opinion on something, they don’t resort to name calling and nasty comments and asinine behaviour. They share something, write a few words and respond with decency when someone offers a differing point of view. Most of them. Then there are ‘the others’. The ones that think that bullying and ridiculing and name calling and fear mongering is going to get their point across or strengthen their argument. It doesn’t. Substituting reasoning with mockery only shows me what an asshole you can be with other people.


Speaking of assholes derogatory terms, I learned a new one this week: “libtards”. Perhaps it’s been around for a long time. I dunno. But it’s the first I hear of it. I consider myself a liberal and I have a lot of liberal friends and family members. But I also have people in my circle that are conservative. If we all started tossing around insults like that with each other, you can just imagine the drama and fractured relationships. So we don’t. We try very, very, veeeery hard to be respectful with one another. Sometimes we have heated debates but that type of bashing is prohibited. You go down that route and the conversation comes to a screeching halt.

But hey, if it makes people feel better, go ahead and toss the word “libtard” around. Say it to my face if you must. I can take it. In fact, I’ll put on that badge and wear it with pride. Because I am indeed a tree hugging, bleeding heart, hippie, snowflake “libtard”. And I’ve also raised two beautiful tree hugging, bleeding heart, hippie, snowflake “libtards” to carry on this legacy!

Anyhow, try not to insult people. It’s childish. Things work out better when you try to understand and work with people who have differing opinions instead of insulting them.

Have a beautiful weekend!

54 comments:

  1. That must be so much fun going through everything but remember Girl, if it's too hard to decide it's meant to be kept, I've worked for all Federal Ministers of all parties in Canada, and there are no differences. Now in the USA they've traded Obama for a man who will ruin all good will. I'm so happy I live in Canada, what about you? and do show me which post has your future home in in, I'm so thrilled for you. I've given up getting a home again, BUT I know I can make one perfect home in heaven, so I'll just bid my time and imagine what I will created when i become a spirit. ;)

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    1. I really liked President Obama and his wife. Both lovely, well spoken and classy people. Whether people agreed with his politics or not is one thing, but as a person he was calm and diplomatic and respectful. You can't take that away from him.

      Anyhow, I am a Canadian and I love my country. I always say that the best place to live in the world is the place you are happiest. And I'm happy here. I don't have a post yet of the home. That will all be coming up when we start settling there. I'll be taking photos and sharing about our move as we go along.

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  2. I am so glad the packing is going smooth. Moving can be so stressful.

    I haven't heard the 'libtard' but my brother did call me a village idiot because of my liberal views and my mother-in-law has told me that people like me are what's wrong with America! Apparently we our family no longer puts the fun in dysFUNtional!

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    1. I'm sorry to hear that, Toni! That must be really awful for you.

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  3. I've gotten to 'unfollowing' many people in FB. Not relationship-affecting 'unfriending', but unfollowing.

    Re the term libtard, I would be pissed. Don't put me down for being a liberal, or I'll call you a maroon for being a Trumptard. I swear to God, social media makes people behave in a mob mentality. Lacking all normal face-to-face social graces and considerations. I'm one or two more comments away from doing away with FB.

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    1. I agree. That mob mentality can get pretty crazy. I don't spend a lot of time on FB. I pop in now and then but it's not my playground. I prefer the blogging world!

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  4. Have a great weekend Martha, happy packing!

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    1. Thanks, Christine. I hope it's a good one for you!

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  5. Respect to one another is what is needed!

    Have a great weekend, Sshh don't tell anyone it's just past 6pm here in the UK and we've opened a bottle of white wine.
    Cheers !!!

    Have a great weekend, and I hope the rest of the packing goes well.
    Do you know I'm really enjoying this move with you and your great guy.

    All the best Jan

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    1. HAHAHA! I had a good laugh with the wine, Jan. I promise I won't breathe a word :) Happy weekend to you!

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  6. Wonderful about the ease of move. That's the best.

    What's Facebook? This word I do not know, but I love that sign you posted here. Very true about the insults. I agree.

    Have a groovy weekend to you and your honey bunny.



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    1. If you're not on it, you're not missing anything. Happy weekend to you!

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    2. Even though, I'm told I should go on the my videos, I just don't want to. I really hate the whole Facebook disgustingness.

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    3. I don't think you have to be there for that. Your blog works just as well. And you've already got a fan club going there :)

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  7. I love getting rid of things, I do hope an angel gets it's wings every time :) That is a positive side to all the work of moving. Good luck!

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    1. My plan is to minimize all the stuff in our house. There is something so liberating about it!

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  8. I love the quote on insults. It's quite hard not to respond when someone is insulting you, but this quote is the perfect antidote (even if you just say it quietly inside your head :)).

    Decluttering is a bit of a wrench for me, I have to admit. But I've developed some skills over the past few years, mostly by reading one or two very good decluttering websites. This year I'm taking another run at things here as well. I don't want our kids to have to deal with all the stuff we have, and as we get older, I worry about that more than I used to. Good luck with the rest of your packing! Your move is coming soon, is it not? It's February already! Ack!

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    1. It's funny you mentioned that, but that crossed my mind, too. That I don't want the girls dealing with our stuff should something happen. I never used to think about this stuff before but as the years pass I do.

      Yes, our move is coming very soon. We're closing on the new house on February 21st and as soon as we take possession we're going to start moving things over!

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  9. You may know I am of a Facebook break. A bit of a blogging break as well. The anger is causing me to stumble.

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    1. I know, Birdie. And good for you. Get away from all the craziness and de-stress.

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  10. I quickly scroll past anything political on Facebook, but in all honesty, I don't have many friends/family on there so most of the people share my views. I have also liked a lot of encouragement type sites so I get a lot of that in my feed which is uplifting :)

    Always good to purge. I could do that again and we just did it when we moved in March. I do about the same as you with wondering before I toss and remember back to when I last used it. If it was more than a year ago, out it goes!

    Happy weekend!

    betty

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    1. Good for you, Betty. If you spend a lot of time on the political stuff it'll make you crazy! Most of my connections are really good folks. There are just a handful that are insulting like that. I'm thinking of disconnecting from them because I ask myself "Do I really want people like that in my life?"

      Happy weekend to you!

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  11. It gets confusing because in Australia our "Liberal" party is actually the right wing, our left wing is the "Labour" party. But maybe our liberals aren't as far right as your conservatives?!

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    1. It's taken from "classical liberalism" which matches the liberal thought of a society that moved away from feudalism. It's more an economical "capitalist" origin but conservatives do wish to forbid the taboos too.

      Japan's main right-wing party is the Liberal Party as well. Same logic.

      I think even Canada had a Liberal-Conservative party at one time. Talk about a confusing title.

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    2. We actually don't have a really far right in Canada. Most people are center, left of center or right of center. We may have differing views but not at extreme levels. I guess that's why our politics are usually so dull. But that's okay with me!

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  12. Snowflake is the new one they like to use. A bunch of snowflakes do cause avalanches.

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  13. You make some great points and you didn't have to insult me. Yes, some of the loudest have absolutely nothing to say.

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  14. Yeah, that slur has been around for awhile. We don't hear it used as much in Canada because "liberal" is not the insult that it is in the USA. But I still think that the best way to deal with insults is this classic gay response:

    Bigot: "Hey, faggot!"
    Gay: "That's MISTER faggot to you!"

    Hahahahahahaha! However, it does not work on a dark street in the middle of the night with no one around. Just a caveat.

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    1. HAHAHA! You always make me smile, Debra :) Stay away from those dark streets!

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  15. Love the quote! And I'm quite proud to be a "snowflake libtard."

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  16. Unfortunately, insults are the only way our new President communicates - using Twitter, too.

    Have a productive weekend Martha, and good luck with the move.

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    1. It's been pretty tough for all of you, Robyn. I hope things settle down. Perhaps politicians can concentrate on more important matters than using Twitter.

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  17. You must feel so much 'lighter', Martha. What a good cleansing of the soul!

    I don't think I've ever heard that term as well. People that choose or feel they have a need to name-call are, as your 'sign' suggests, hurting in the worst of ways........overwhelmed with negativity.

    Have a great weekend and I hope your packing is done!

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    1. I do, Jim! Lighter and happier :)
      As I get older, I'm less and less bothered by these things. I usually just shrug it off and shake my head.

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  18. I'm not on Facebook but years ago my younger daughter set up her Facebook account using my email, so I get loads of stuff through that I don't want to see but sometimes get drawn into looking at and then immediately regret it!

    Happy packing!!

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    1. It's easy to get sucked into it. There is so much happening on Facebook and so many things you don't want to see!

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  19. I have a Facebook page and just haven't advertised it on the new blog yet. wwww.facebook.com/JerseyGirlFourEver Do you have one for your blog or just personal?

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    1. correction https://www.facebook.com/JerseyGirlFourEver

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    2. I used to have a Facebook page for this blog but I deactivated it a long time ago. Too many things to keep up with. I'll check out your link.

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  20. That's a new one on me but then again, I spend less and less time on Facebook. I much prefer blogging. Good for you for de-cluttering and Happy weekend!

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    1. I prefer blogging, too. I've met some amazing people along the way. I hope you are feeling much better and enjoying a lovely weekend!

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  21. haha i would remember these questions before moving to My land ,you are a smart lady and glad to know you .

    truly loved these words of wisdom and totally agree!
    i belong to a society of[ mostly] conservative people but Hippocrates though[most of them]
    i am one who believed that live and let live don't interfere just be neutral and spread [atleast try] happiness because it is important if you want to be REALLY happy in life.

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    1. That is a great philosophy to live by! It also translates to "mind your own business" :) You are a kind and gentle soul, Baili. And I am very happy to know you!

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  22. I've never heard "libtard" before, but I'd wear that badge with pride! I agree what you wrote! Take care!

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    1. If they made buttons like this, Louise, I swear I'd get one!

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  23. I have heard the word libtard and find the fact that people are so rude to call each other names because of political views extremely disappointing. I, too consider myself socially and environmentally liberal but I am fairly conservative fiscally. Still, I just don't understand why people can't respect each other's point of view. Don't we all get some of it right and some of it wrong? I seem to have a couple of relatives that are 100 percent right ALL the time according to them. I try just not to engage in political conversations as much as I can.

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    1. Religion and politics...two topics that make a lot of people go over the edge. I personally don't understand it, Cheryl, but I do try very, very hard to keep my cool whether someone is stating what I believe is nonsense or whether someone is insulting me because they believe I'm doing the same. Sure it takes effort to keep from getting upset but I think it's something everyone needs to do. Talking with people with differing views helps us understand them. And vice versa. Screaming and yelling and swearing and insulting just adds fuel to the fire.

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  24. Never heard of libtard, even here in Aus, there's f##ktard. I think the tard comes from retard which has become a no-no word to use but I use it anyway. Because I'm all about not doing what people tell me to.

    I'm on Facebook as a profile (which I can't change the name of, damn Facebook!) and have an author page for this name, and my children's author name, plus one for my jewellery business and a profile for my style blog.

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    1. That makes sense about Facebook. You want to promote your businesses as far and wide as possible.

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    2. Exactly. Generally I just have my blog posts go through to it. I posted other stuff when I first joined and commented a lot, but with people trolling and attacking you for just having a say, it got tiring and boring. Now I'm growing a very passionate hatred for social media as a part of business because I cannot be bothered jumping online to post five times a day. I'd rather live in the real world and get shit done.

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