Saturday, April 8, 2017

This Week

Painting. Organizing. Lots and lots of painting and organizing went on this week. Our kitchen is painted save for the trim, which we’ll get to very soon. And I have scrubbed, painted and organized 5 out of 6 closets/storage spaces in our home. (The sixth one is in the lower level of the house and it can’t be completed until we remove the filthy and stinky carpets to add flooring.) Painting closets is a lot of work and a huge pain in the heinie. But let me tell you, once they’re finished, they are beautiful. And even better, tons of stuff gets unpacked and put away. Every time I empty a box, I want to do a heel click jump.

Here’s a quote from an article I was reading this morning titled "Nobody wants the family heirlooms anymore":
“This is an IKEA and Target generation. They live minimally, much more so than the boomers. They don’t have the emotional connection to things that earlier generations did. And they’re more mobile. So they don’t want a lot of heavy stuff dragging down a move across country for a new opportunity.”

It seems that the upcoming generation, for a number of reasons, doesn’t have much interest in the stuff that their parents and grandparents are trying to unload as some of them downsize. This is certainly true in my family as my daughters don’t care very much for stuff their grandma offers. And it’s also true of minimalistic me. I don’t have an emotional connection to things. Snapping a photo of furniture or items used by my parents would be enough for me to remember these things by. Aside from some photos, there isn’t very much I’ll be taking from my mom’s place when she passes away. How about you? Where do you stand on this?


Speaking of IKEA, there are now two of these stores within less than an hour driving distance. My longtime blogging pals know how much I love this place and how much this must make me happy. It does. I once met a woman that said that people with IKEA stuff in their homes should grow up and start buying adult furniture. If growing up means becoming this judgmental and critical and narrow minded then I’ll keep my love for IKEA. People have different tastes. Let them be.


The most amazing man in the world and I have discussed doing some volunteer work together. One of the places we are considering is the local Meals on Wheels program; a non-profit, volunteer-based support service that delivers hot, nutritious meals to homebound individuals who are unable to prepare food. This would include the elderly, chronically or terminally ill, disabled, etc. This is a fantastic service and it’s something that the most amazing man in the world and I can do together since deliveries are done in teams of two: one driver and one assistant. And in addition to delivering hot meals, we’ll also be providing a short and friendly visit, and a security check to ensure that the recipient is safe and well. Do you have this non-profit in your area? It’s a very popular program.

I think that’s it for now. I’ve been enjoying your blogs but haven’t been doing much of it myself. I’m too tired and busy and unmotivated. Eventually I’ll get back into it.

Enjoy the rest of the weekend!

49 comments:

  1. Moving is always so much work, and it isn't finished when you actually move in. You are doing so much in getting the new house turned into a new home. Volunteering with Meals on Wheels sounds like a fantastic venture.

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    1. Moving is not fun at all. We don't plan on doing this again!

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  2. Stop it, Martha, you're making me tired and guilty just reading about your accomplishments! :) Seriously, you have really made inroads on settling in. Meals on Wheels is a great program and it would be nice to be able to volunteer together.

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    1. No reason to feel guilty, Jenny. If you see how upside down we are, you'd think we're sitting on our butts over here!

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  3. It will be so nice when all the painting is behind you and things are put in their places. I think a lot of heel kicks would be in order.

    My daughter and I talked about the huge estate sale she is going to be saddled with if I would make my exit before hauling all my stuff to local charities. While she and I do share similar taste, she has her own things and doesn't need more.

    Neither she or I are overly attached to our stuff. If a big storm came through there are things I would be really sorry to lose but it wouldn't ruin my life. My husband and son would be more inclined to be devastated if they lost their things.

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    1. That's the thing, Cheryl. Even when we share similar tastes with each other, there is often no room for more. Our house is full enough, we certainly have no space to add anything that our parents leave behind.

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  4. I love Ikea! I really like the idea of less clutter, less heirlooms. Meals on Wheels sounds like a great idea.

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    1. I've always liked being clutter free. Makes keeping the house clean so much easier!

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  5. 5 out of 6 closets. Wow, go you. We are removing carpet to add flooring as well. Have you seen the loose lay flooring? Getting samples sent to us so I can see what it feels like.

    Being that I donated/ditched 95 percent of my stuff last year, I'm not interested in stuff. Tim's mom wanted to give us heirloom silverware from her mom. Even Tim's mom didn't want it, and she saves EVERYTHING. She's still saving it for what, I dunno since his sister doesn't want it and we don't. So basically, it's just sitting in a box. Why? Anyway, we don't want it, it means nothing to us. But the rolling pin that my grandma gave me when she was alive, that I keep and use daily.

    There's a great joy in traveling light and not having all this stuff.

    You asked about how I feel about this and we're not taking ANYTHING from Tim's mom or mine. Yet I see more and more parents saving things for kids. But the problem is, what means something to one person (unused silverware), doesn't mean anything to us.

    And this isn't to sound harsh or mean, you know me well, I'm not a cold-hearted person. But to all the parents saving shit for the their kids, I say, ask them first. Because if those kids don't want those things, don't save it for them.

    Love that you guys are looking into working together for something like Meals on Wheels. That's very cool. You two are the best. Keep being wonderful.

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    1. I've never heard of loose lay flooring. I'm going to have to look it up. I actually know very little about flooring. There are so many choices these days that it makes your head spin.

      Some people have trouble getting rid of things and hope that their kids will take them in. I think this is a conversation that parents should have with their children while everyone is still around. If the kids are interested in some items, make a note of it, or even give them those things in the present if possible. If no one is interested in anything, make plans to sell or donate or find another home for them. I don't think saddling your kids with a huge cleanup is right. In my opinion...

      You are definitely far from being harsh or mean! You're one of the nicest people. I totally understand what you're saying and I totally agree! I've already told my mom that I only want some photos and a couple of pictures she has on her wall. Nothing else. She's good with that. Our house is full. We have no place for anything else.

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    2. I can send you the link, I have it on Tim's computer. I'll go get it after this comment.

      I agree with you 100 percent. Don't saddle the loved ones.

      Very cool that you talked to your mom about it already and even cooler that she's so great about it. Okay ... going to get you that link. I've not ordered any samples or finished hunting around. So many choices. I'm looking for something dog-friendly and that doesn't involve buying lots of tools.

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    3. Apologies that I forgot how to link these but here are two videos. I'm still hunting and if you come across something interesting, please drop me a note. Thanks and boogie boogie.

      https://www.floorstoyourhome.com/vinyl-flooring/loose-lay.html

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pbySUjCH6-s

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    4. Oh, cool. Thanks! I'll check it out. We won't be getting to the downstairs floors for a while, so we have plenty of time to look around and see what's out there. I'll share info if I run across anything interesting. Smart move for getting something dog-friendly. Our pets can be pretty tough on house stuff. But I wouldn't have it any other way!

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    5. Agreed. I wouldn't have it any other way either. And I don't need a fancy high-end floor. But I am super excited that we'll eventually have allll the wall to wall carpets, GONE!

      Real happy with what I got done yesterday. Gonna hit the room more today. Rah.

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    6. We are the same. We don't care about fancy schmancy stuff; just something that works for us and, most importantly, fits into our budget.

      That is very cool about the carpets. I cannot stand carpets. No matter how great they look in the beginning, they end up really dirty at some point and end up smelling. And they are sometimes impossible to clean. Floors are fantastic!

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    7. Came back to tell you that the loose lay is manufactured in China. I just found this out. So for me, it's a pass. Yes, on the carpets. WTF? I hate them. I didn't hate them this much until I decluttered last year. Now, I HATE them.

      Beans nearly done cooking. Back to the room. Taking apart the window frame as it's rubbish.

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    8. With so many options these days for floors, I'm sure there's something out there that isn't made in China but closer to home instead.

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  6. Don't have to worry about painting closets, but the kitchen ceiling is gonna take forever. Someone sure loved tiles!

    I have a 45 year old camera that was passed down to me a few years ago. A Fujica ST801. It needed some work, but it's like brand new now. Plus some great photos of the family.

    We don't have Meals on Wheels where I'm at, but that's a great thing you're doing! :)

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    1. Are you saying that there are tiles on the ceiling? That would be difficult to work with! Sounds like you are enjoying that camera. That is great!

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  7. I have a few small "family heirloom" things and 2 or 3 items from my childhood, but I like to travel light so I have no trouble jettisoning stuff that doesn't have a major emotional connection to me. I still like IKEA furniture too -- I have 2 chests of drawers and a set of bookcases with glass doors.

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    1. Traveling light is how I like to live, too! After this move, I'm eager to get rid of more things. Downsizing and decluttering becomes more and more attractive as I get older.

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  8. Sounds as if you are getting on very well.
    I love the idea of the Meals on Wheels programme ... Go For It !!!

    Happy Weekend Wishes

    All the best Jan

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  9. You are going into a very rewarding volunteer program. Yes I know the feeling of thinking that some of my worldly goods would be of interest to my kids.

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    1. I think we should just ask our kids if they want anything and take it from there!

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  10. Well, don't want to be disagreeable, but I love our family heirloom furniture and hope one of kids wants to keep it all. And one of them is agreeing with me. As for IKEA, can't stand it. May relate to our house fire, after which all ikea furniture went straight to the dump (glue melted), but our old family furniture, all of solid wood, got refinished, and is beautiful! But each to their own. Enjoy IKEA if you must!

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    1. Having different taste is not being disagreeable! We all have our preferences. I'm not a fan of big, heavy furniture and I've thanked the stars above that we don't have much of that every time we've moved. Others love it and wouldn't have it any other way. It's a matter of taste. As far as passing on items to our kids, I think it's important to have a conversation with them about that while we're still around to see how everyone feels about it. It's great that one of your kids is interested in your furniture. Now it has a home for the future!

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  11. I have about 10 things that belonged to my mom or grandparents. My husband on the other hand is a collector. It's hard for me as a recovering hoarder.

    Many, many of my clients get MOW. A great service!

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    1. You have shared on your blog about that period in your life. I can only imagine how difficult it was for you.

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  12. I am happy to read that you are getting a lot done, I am sure the closets being done helps a lot with the unpacking. I have been trying to downsize and own less stuff. I do love IKEA! I wish there was one closer, there are 2 that are in opposite directions 2 hours away.

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    1. Painting those closets has been a huge help. So many things have been put away. As I unpack, I put things aside to donate. I want to streamline this home as much as possible. It makes keeping it clean so much easier!

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  13. We do have Meals on Wheels here. I haven't volunteered for it, may some day. One Thanksgiving we helped out at the Rescue Mission where we were living. They had enough people to work the kitchen making and serving the meal, but needed volunteers to deliver food to those that couldn't get to the meal served there. We delivered several meals; very rewarding to do so.

    I have read lots of articles bout the "kids" these days not wanting their parents' things, including also Goodwill and other places don't want to take stuff as donation because they know it won't sell (things like big pieces of furniture, etc.). When it all came down to what hubby and his brother took from the MASSIVE amount of stuff his parents had, it was just a handful of things. A few cherished things, but so much they weren't interested in. I am sure I mentioned it before but between selling things are garage sales (multiple ones), giving away, throwing away, etc., we got rid of over 30,000 pounds of "stuff" that his parents had. Dealing with that nightmare, I resolved right then and there it wouldn't happen to son when we passed. I was always a minimalist for the last 10 years; I became more of a one. Less really is more!

    I hope we get to see pictures of your house when it is ready to "present" itself.

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    1. I feel the same way, Betty. I don't want to burden my kids with my things if they're not interested in them. It can be a real nightmare, as you've experienced personally, to saddle anyone with cleaning up after us. This is something that I think every parent should consider. In our home, we already have everything we need. More than enough, really. I can't imagine squeezing in anything else and cluttering up our place.

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  14. I was thinking about what will happen to all of mums stuff once she dies or we have to sell the house. And quite honestly apart from a couple of things I don't want anything. I'll probably try and sell as much as I can on ebay and then give some to charity and the rest will be dumped. How sad really. The only thing mum really cares about is her home and what's in it, but soon it will all end up just a load of junk that needs throwing out.

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    1. It is a very sad thing to deal with. My brother and I will be dealing with a similar ordeal when my mom passes away. I think it'll be harder for him because he becomes more attached to things than I do.

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  15. I don't like IKEA, I'm more a "French Provincial" kind of gal. Actually I've never been in one of their stores so maybe I just don't like my friend's taste in specific IKEA stuff?! Very blocky. But in general, I'm not attached to stuff. I love watching those Tiny House shows - although I would want to do it myself, especially with a whole family in there (or even a partner!) - it's fascinating to see people downsizing to a permanent home the size of a caravan and how much stuff they DON'T need.

    When I moved out of my mother's house in my 20s I was grateful for the stuff she had saved for me, old furniture etc, it saved me a lot of money. But I replaced it as soon as I could afford to. Both my parents died two years ago, I can't think of a single thing I own from either of their houses other than a few books and photos from mum. My brother is a hoarder, and living in what was mum's house, that is going to be an absolute nightmare when he dies. Maybe have to bulldoze the house without opening the door. I tried to help him sort through mum's stuff but he didn't want to throw a single thing away (not old used underwear, not rusty hairclips, nothing) so I pretended I wanted most of her old clothes and secretly gave them to charity, then just let him keep the rest. Whatever.

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    1. I am in awe of people who can live in those tiny houses. I'm not sure I could, although having few items to worry about seems to liberating!

      I'm sorry to hear that about your brother. I imagine it's quite a struggle for him, too, living that way.

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  16. My parents moved 17 times in the 12 years I lived with them, US to Canada and back to the US. My poor Dad packed truck loads of my mother's hoarded goods... Eventually they stopped moving for the last 30 years of their lives. They settled so far north in Alberta that when they passed half of us couldn't get there in the winter time to move the stuff out. A house full of belongings went to waste, water damage and rodents. I'm the opposite. I can live in a 23 foot RV and be happy. Pictures are the only part of the past I pack.
    I encourage the volunteer work. It is a very rewarding adventure for the heart.

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    1. That is a lot of moving! I've only done it a few times and find it exhausting. And after each move, I am reminded once more why less is best! It's really a shame that all that stuff from your parents went to waste. And I'm with you on photos. That is really all that's important to me.

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  17. I must admit to being a baby boomer and loving items that belonged to my parents and my hubby's parents. There is something about having these items that were once handled and touched by them. They are precious to me.
    I have nothing against IKEA or minimalists. We are all different and neither is right or wrong. It's a personal choice.
    When you are finished painting and cleaning closets and organizing...Would you like to do my house :) I didn't think so!

    Hug~

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    1. HAHA! You are right, Jan. The answer is 'no'! This house is more than enough :)

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  18. I used to hold on to everything!! But now I only keep what we either need or really like and don't as of yet want to part with it.
    As you know I have a shop that is FILLED with things that didn't want any more. You may be surprised to know that I sell most of the stuff to young people/couples who are just starting out......in particular those who appreciate things that were made with better craftsmanship and imagination than some of the stuff made today.

    We are getting an Ikea!! Been 25 years since they packed up and left the Maritimes! Must have been something we said!! lol Looking forward to seeing what they offer.

    My parents used to volunteer for Meals on Wheels. They found it very rewarding as I am sure you both will.

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    1. Your shop must be a wonderful trip down memory lane, Jim! I'm not surprised that young people are picking up those items. They are very unique!

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  19. My work is paying us to "volunteer" 16 hours out of the year. I've been mulling over it. Boys and girls club seems to be the only charity/nonprofit around that seems like the time would move fast and not affiliated with some kind of church

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    1. That is a great charity. Share on your blog if you decide to participate!

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  20. Doesn't all those accomplishments (cleaning, painting, organizing) just make you so happy? I will go back to a closet twelve times just to stare at how good it looks when I've organized it.

    My mom has an old 'hope chest' that she has had forever. It's lined with cedar. I remember sitting on the floor when I was really little as she shared old photos, old cards and letters with me. That is really the only thing I would want. The smell of the cedar, the loving gestures. Stuff, in general, is my nemesis in this stage of my life. My motto is, "Throw It Out!"

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    1. I like your motto, Toni! HAHA But that hope chest sounds lovely. Sometimes there is an item that stands out from the rest.

      Yes, all the accomplishments make me very happy. And I laughed when you said you go back to a closet just to state at it. I have been doing this regularly!

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  21. I have things that were left to me that I want to sell simply because they are unused and take up space. I think Meals on Wheels is a great idea though here in the states, there has been an attempt to take away the block grant money that helps fund it...Our new government at work and a horrible thing to do, among many others! I hope you will enjoy volunteering there and continued success on your home!

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    1. That's too bad about the Meals on Wheels. It's such a great program and many individuals rely on it.

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