Saturday, July 22, 2017

This Week

It’s Saturday? Okay, if you say so. One day just seems to blend into the next around here and I don’t even notice when the weekends roll in. This week has been very busy. And productive. Our playroom/TV room/exercise area/lower level has been stripped of carpet and we’ve painted the ceiling and walls. Today I am finishing the trim and doors, and this coming week flooring will be laid down. We are definitely over the halfway mark of cleaning and painting. After this we’ve got a small bedroom downstairs, the front room/living room and a tiny laundry room to wash and paint. That’s it. Next week I’ll be able to say that the majority of the indoor work is finished. Can you say overjoyed? That’s how I feel.



On Monday I was back in Montreal. This time the drive there and back was much better. My brother and I accompanied my mother to her doctor’s appointment. I wanted to attend, hear what he had to say and ask a couple of questions. She is still feeling ill since she fell and banged her head last month on the cement tiles in her garden. This accident, which the doctor confirmed to me may indeed have caused a concussion, has turned her cherished weekly routine topsy turvy and it’s really upsetting to her. He told her she will be fine but it will take time until things return to normal.  But she questions whether he’s just saying that to make her feel better, convinced that she’s never going to get better. I suspect that in addition to whatever symptoms the fall has brought on, she’s also dealing with fear and a lot of anxiety. Possibly health anxiety.



I talk to my cats all the time. They each respond differently and it’s rather amusing. Our black cat, Nacho, tries very hard to understand. She answers back sometimes and always listens attentively for any words that are familiar to her. And when she hears one she knows like “food” or “no” or “Nacho” or “down”, she’s thrilled and rubs up against me. Or rather, she jumps up against me. She is very excitable that way.


Our tabby cat, Mocha, on the other hand, stares at me with big, round eyes like I’ve just sprung a pop quiz on her. Occasionally she’ll make a faint meowing sound if I toss out a familiar word but mostly she looks horrified. What is she asking? What if I answer wrong? How much time do I have? This behaviour is adorable.


Okay, enough about cats or anything else for that matter. I’m sure you’ve all got better things to do. So I will stop right here and wish you all a beautiful rest of the weekend!

36 comments:

  1. Your mom is at a difficult stage of life and it is good that you are closer and able to support
    your family with this. The falls are the most dangerous thing.

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    1. They sure are, Christine. In addition to the possibility of major injuries, there is also fear.

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  2. When you've finished decorating your house, can you come and do ours?

    My mother's health deteriorated rapidly after a couple of nasty falls. I hope your mom does make a full recovery.

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    1. No. LOL One house to fix up is more than enough for me!

      I hope she recovers, too. It's making her really anxious.

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  3. I hope your mum gets better too. Anything can happen in life so it helps you to handle things better when you can still visit her. The miniatureopolous website is so funny and brilliant. I think we should all do one. Maybe not - there's nothing like the original. Canada is such a huge place compared to Britain, but hasn't go the population we have. Britain is incredibly small. It won't happen now, but the future doesn't look too good for us.

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    1. Thanks! I hope she does get better. She's been told she will but she doesn't seem to have any faith in that right now. Hopefully she'll start to feel better as time passes.

      Canada has a lot of land but it's really cold in most areas, which doesn't encourage people to live there.

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  4. Congrats on moving ahead on the renovations! I'll join in on your yippee! :) I feel for your mom. I know that feeling that the doctor is "just saying that" and you feel like you'll never get better...it's hard to go through and harder to believe it if someone says you will feel better! I do hope she improves soon, routine is a hard one to give up if you live by it.

    I talk to the pets constantly...about everything lol...the only one who seems to listen is Jack the hound dog. He'll often just stare at me and turn his head, then come up to me and wag his tail...I'm convinced he can speak English but can't go against the canine code of letting humans know about it, hee hee...

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    1. At her age her routine is extremely important. And now that this fall has robbed her of that, she feels very frustrated. Not sure when she'll begin to feel better but hopefully it's not too long. She seems to have lost hope, which is very sad.

      HAHAHA! That is funny about Jack. Wouldn't want to go against the code!

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  5. I talk to my cats, too, but now realize that I ask them ridiculous things like, "Are you a handsome boy?" How could he possibly answer without sounding conceited??
    I know of at least two people now who have dealt with (and are continuing to deal with) the effects of a concussion. These were rather significant occurances that caused their concussions, and both women have had to take time off work. One was unable to watch tv, or look at a computer screen, read books, or do physical activity which might cause her dizziness. She discovered audio books and they saved her from going absolutely crazy. Of course, I know other people (kids, too) who have had concussions and the aftermath was not nearly as serious. I really hope your mom gets some relief soon. It is so hard when you find you are playing the role of the child and the parent at the same time. -Jenn

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    1. HAHAHA! That is funny about your cats. You are certainly feeding cat egos :)

      I try to be as supportive as I can with my mother about this fall. It's hard for her to feel hopeful when she feels ill.

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  6. Sorry to hear about your mom. It is true about parents pushing themselves for us. Also, every time I read your cat's name I smile! :o)

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    1. In addition to Nacho, we call our black cat "Cheese" and "The Cheese". The funny thing is that she responds to all of these names :)

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  7. So sorry about your mom, hope she starts to feel better soon. Your cats reactions are so funny, both of our cats will meow back and often initiate communication if they want us to do something for them!

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    1. Cats can be quite communicative when they want to, especially when it comes to being fed!

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  8. It's a good thing that you're closer to Montreal now that your Mom is aging. It's even better that your brother is right in the city. Between the two of you, she will do well!

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    1. She is definitely one of the reasons we moved here. It's nice to be able to see her whenever I want.

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  9. I can tell that you are relieved, Martha, to be closer to your mother. Having some experience with concussion symptoms, I can tell you that anxiety feelings/emotional feelings are exaggerated initially but do disappear after a while....and that is different for everyone. All you can do is support her and help her realize she will feel better.

    I LOVE talking to Sophie! We have quite the conversations too!! I did the same with my cat, Rita, except she wasn't much of a conversationalist!!

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    1. I hear you, Jim! It's hard for her to believe since her emotional and psychological health is really suffering right now. I hope that she starts to improve sooner rather than later, so she can get back to a routine she enjoys.

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  10. I brought Mcdonalds over at the in-laws house and my wife and I were eating. Their cat Johann just jumps on the table and stares.

    I guess cats are less likely to "steal" food because they know what they'd do to something that stole their and that's to "smack" them.

    Dogs don't care, any punishment is worth the crime.

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    1. HAHAHA! That is funny about the dogs :)
      Cats do steal food but during the night while you're sleeping. So they can blame the dog :)

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  11. My mom was very anxious during her recent illness, even as she was improving. She still knew things were not right, and it worried her that she wouldn't fully recover. But she did. All I could do was keep telling her: It takes time to heal; I really think you will be okay.

    I'm not looking forward to getting old(er). What I've seen of it, up close and personal, kinda sucks :)

    Love your descriptions of how your cats respond to your talking! I talk to ours all the time. They are definitely aware of tone of voice, inflection, etc. If I tell them they have beautiful eyes or the softest fur they look proud/embarrassed just as a person would :D The more snuggly one will lie in my arms, gaze into my eyes and reach her paw up to my face when I talk to her. It melts me every time.

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    1. The biggest worry is never fully recovering. That seems to be what my mother is struggling with the most at the moment. I just try to make her feel hopeful and most conversations we have are about other things. When she's engaged in another topic and not thinking about her illness, she is happier.

      Aw, very sweet about your cats, especially the snuggling! I have one that is a lap cat. She also always sits right next to me when we watch TV and she enjoys sleeping with me. I call her my needy cat; she's always in need of mama cat's attention!

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  12. I've taken a couple of tumbles and broke bones. You lose confidence and it takes a while to get it back. I still haven't got confidence back after falling down the stairs.

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    1. I'm sorry to hear that! Falls are very frightening, especially if you've suffered injuries.

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  13. I hope you are going to show us some after photos of all your hard work soon.
    I talk to my cats all the time, including Phoebe who is mostly deaf now.
    Sorry about your Mom, I hope she does feel better soon.

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    1. After all the hard work, I will definitely share some photos in the future! We are proud of all the changes we've made all on our own.

      It's fun talking to the cats. Every single one answers in a unique way and it's quite entertaining.

      Thank you about my mom!

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  14. What a great feeling it must be to see how close you are to being done with the indoor work for the house!! Here's hoping your mom makes a speedy quick recovery and is back to her usual self sooner than later. Its hard as we get older to realize our bodies take a bit more time to recover from things than they use to when we were younger. I talked to the dog all the time; he knew quite a few words like "car ride" "time to eat" "time to go for a walk". We almost had to get to the point of spelling the common phrases he knew :)

    betty

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    1. I can't tell you how relieved I am that we are making such progress in our home. We've been working on this for a long time but we've spread it out far and wide so as not to overly stress ourselves. Injuring myself sure put things in the proper perspective.

      My mom is definitely struggling with this. What she really wants is to snap her fingers and make it all go away, or for some doctor to give her a magic cure and make things go back to normal. Unfortunately it's not that easy and this will take time to sort itself out.

      HAHAHA! I laughed out loud with the part about spelling. Our pets can pick up on those words they know even when we try to sneak them by!

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  15. I can imagine the peace you are feeling right now as you have done most and left little behind.
    so happy for you my brave and very smart friend(through your wise writings it is my observation)

    Hope dear mother get better soon and i agree more than illness it is the health anxiety i believe.

    My mom taught her pair of parrots lot ,they used to call the names of almost whole family and short sentences ,it was really so cheering to hear them.
    my late brother (4 years elder than me) used to talk lot with her she parrot and though she had wings she never flew away until he died.
    lots of best wishes to your doings my friend!

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    1. I am very much at peace as our home is closer to being completed. I look forward to all this work being finished, so we can just enjoy our space. Thank you about my mom. I hope she starts having better days soon.

      Such a great story about the parrots! They are fantastic at that and can learn so many words. I bet it was a lot of fun!

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  16. Sending healing energy and thoughts for your mother. I hope she recovers well. It is good you are closer. As for you, yay on completing that hard work! I hope the rest goes smoothly.

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    1. Thanks, e! I hope her days get better and she can return to the routine she enjoys.

      Our home renovations are coming along well. It's taken us long, probably longer than necessary, but a slow pace keeps us from getting injured and keeps us from getting totally frustrated with the whole ordeal!

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  17. Cats are easy to communicate with if you are willing to listen. Mine have taught me so much. I hope your mom feels better. This getting older stuff isn't as easy as I thought it would be.

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    1. Indeed! It's not easy at all. And injuries later in life can cause so much trouble, as I'm seeing.

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  18. Cat talk is a very healthy past time. Cheaper than therapy for sure.

    Healing hugs for MOM♥

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    1. Yes, much cheaper than therapy! And thanks for the hugs for mom. She can use some of those!

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