Wednesday, July 12, 2017

You Asked, I Answer (Perfect Day, Favourite Memory, Travel Bucket List)

It has taken what seems like forever to answer all the questions my blogging pals asked me in this year’s ‘Ask Me Anything ’ post I uploaded way back in February. What? Has it really been that long? I guess it has.

But this will come to an end today as I answer the last questions that were posed by a favourite, long-time blogging pal and fellow Canadian.

Away we go…

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Christine
1) What's a perfect day for you?

Where do I start with this? Since I’m all about the simple things in life, my perfect day can be defined in many ways. It may include any of these:

  • Going for a long walk or bike ride with the most amazing man in the world. And stopping for ice cream along the way.
  • Visiting with one of my girls for mother-daughter time.
  • Getting together with my family. And talking and laughing and sharing stories and memories. Even debating with them can be fun.
  • Curling up with a good book on a rainy, snowy or bitterly cold day.
  • Spending the day cooking and baking enough food to last us a week. And inhaling the amazing scents each recipe brings with it.
  • Meeting up with my best friend who has been by my side since we were both four.
  • Receiving packages in the mail. This is always exciting no matter how old I get!
  • Photography. Photography. Photography.
  • Being near the water. Preferably a beach. But that doesn’t happen often, so I settle for a lake or a river or a pond. I’m happiest when I’m near water.
  • Gardening for hours. And listening to the chirping and scurrying and fluttering and buzzing of little critters around me.
  • Road trips! Can you ever go on enough of these?
  • Going out for dinner with friends or family. Or just with the most amazing man in the world.
  • Skyping with my daughter and listening to all she has to share about life and work and friends and her boyfriend. And of course, Obi; her sweet, newly-adopted cat.
And on and on it goes. It doesn’t take much to make me happy, which I consider to be a blessing. Because I have a lot of perfect days with minimal effort.



2) Tell us one of your favourite memories.

Once again, where do I start with this? It would take a book to document all of them but I’ll just reach into the ‘favourite memories’ database in my brain and pluck one out for you. Oh, here's one:

When I was four years old, my mother and I went to pick my brother up from school one afternoon. My mother kept reminding me to stay close but I got mixed up in the crowd and we lost sight of each other. She and my brother called out to me and I called out to them but our voices were drowned out by the noise level of the masses. My mother stayed calm for my brother’s sake; he was in a severe state of panic and did not fully comprehend what had happened, but he did understand that I was lost. Possibly forever. Devastated, he wailed “We’ve lost our girl. Where is she? What are we going to do? WE HAVE TO FIND HER! WHAT. ARE. WE. GOING. TO. DOOOOO?”


Because I’d been walking to and from the school with my mom every day for months to pick up my brother, I made my way home with the aid of an older student. When we arrived at my home, I said good-bye to the girl who walked me there, entered our building and planted myself on the steps in front of our apartment to wait for my mother and brother who weren’t there yet.

My mother and brother (he cried all the way home) arrived shortly after, and as soon as my brother spotted me, he raced up the stairs and we embraced each other tightly, both of us crying with joy. My mother who remembers that day very well says we were glued onto one another and she couldn’t pull us apart.

Of course, there is a scary element to this story that could have turned out very differently but since it has a happy ending, it remains a favourite. I remember clearly the extreme joy I felt reuniting with my best friend – my brother. We were only 11 months apart and unbelievably close. He died in 2011 and you can only imagine the impact it had on me. I miss him every day.


3) How about your travel vacation bucket list.

I am passionate about traveling and would be at a different place every month if I could (if only the lottery would come in). Here are ten places I would love to see in my lifetime.

1) Australia
2) Fiji Islands
3) Cross country Canadian tour
4) Cross country American tour
5) European tour (almost every place!)
6) Barbados (just one of many other Caribbean countries I’d love to go to)
7) Japan
8) India
9) China
10) New Zealand


There are many other places but I’ll stop here because we all have lives to lead.


And that is the end of this year’s answers to your questions. Thank you to everyone who participated and to everyone who has taken the time to read all this. It’s been a lot of fun putting these blog posts together.

Have a great day!

44 comments:

  1. That story about you and your brother zipped straight to my heart.
    Love to you, Martha.

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  2. Martha thanks so much for answering my questions, you have such a good sense of what's important to you (family and friends and perfectly right about that!) So sorry about your beloved brother. I think I will borrow your travel bucket list, I love it!

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    1. Thank you for participating, Christine! These were fun questions to answer.

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  3. With cell phones, at least the lost thing isn't nearly as bad as it used to be.

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  4. I thought coming to England would've been on your bucket list. I didn't get the chance to ask you a question. I always wondered what you sounded like? Is there any chance you could tell me?

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    1. England is absolutely on my bucket list! My tour of Europe would include it. I've actually spent one entire day in London and visited many popular landmarks simply by traveling around the city with the city's underground (the tube?). But one day is very far from being enough. I hope to return one day for a longer visit. How do I sound? That's hard to answer since I don't 'hear' myself. But I do talk softly, calmly and thoughtfully. It's rare I ever say something before thinking it through. I'm careful with my words, so I don't hurt someone or make them feel uncomfortable.

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    2. I'll go on YouTube and hear a few Canadian accents.

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    3. Good idea. Although we do sound slightly different from end of the country to the other, and everywhere in-between!

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  5. What a lovely story about your brother but with a sad ending.

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    1. It has been very hard losing him but I have some amazing memories to keep him alive.

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  6. Oh, your brother loved you so much. That's the sweetest story.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. He did. And I loved him just as much. I'm grateful for these amazing memories.

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  7. That's a sweet memory :) I also have a cross-Canada driving trip on my list. I just really want to see the Yukon and make my way West up the Alaska Highway. Not so interested in Vancouver, but I'd love to visit the Pacific Coast, more north.

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    1. That would be an amazing trip! I haven't seen much of Canada, certainly not beyond Quebec and Ontario, so I hope to do that one day.

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  8. When you do your cross-Canada tour, be sure to swing north to Edmonton too!

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    1. You bet I will! There's no way I'd pass through your area and not stop in for a visit :)

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  9. I really enjoyed reading this, Martha. I agree with finding happiness in the ordinary little things. I am sorry about your brother. That must have impacted greatly on you. What a smart little gaffer you were, having a big kid walk you home and then waiting on the steps. -Jenn

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    1. HAHAHA! I love that word - gaffer. I guess that's what I was that day :)

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  10. Great memories and stories, Martha.
    Wouldn't it be great to travel the world!!

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    1. It would be a dream come true, Jim! All I need to do is win the lottery :)

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  11. You've got lots to look forward to with these ideas.

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  12. Again, very interesting answers to good questions. I'm sorry your brother passed away so young. That had to be very hard for you.

    Our lists of what makes a perfect day are amazingly similar, until it comes to the travelling part! You can have my share of the travel, okay? :)

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    1. I'll take it! I'd be happy to travel on your behalf :)
      My brother's death was very hard on me. The passing of years has made things better and the grief has lifted. I do miss him very much but I've learned to live with this new 'normal'.

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  13. Wow, I can't believe it was back in February you put the post up about asking for questions. Almost six months later! Quite an extensive bucket list of traveling! I hope you can accomplish some of them in the years ahead! Such a cute story about you and your brother. I can imagine the look on his face and the sadness in his voice when he said "we lost our girl" and then the joy of seeing you at home! (Bet you never were lost again after school :)

    betty

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    1. I never got lost again, Betty! One time was enough :)
      I'm happy to be finally done with these questions. I hadn't intended to take this long but it happened.

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  14. Hi Martha,

    I shall leave a mercifully short comment. That story of your brother resonates with so much love and a whole range of emotions, bless you.

    I've sort of done the cross country Canada tour. Well, from Vancouver to Montreal and then, yep, back again.

    Oh, even though I'm typing from England, I'm typing in a Canadian accent. Bet you could tell that, eh.

    All the best and thanks for a thoughtful posting, Martha.

    Gary

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    1. Comment away, Gary, for as long as you want! I enjoy hearing from you. And of course I can tell you're typing in a Canadian accent. It's part of our national identity to be able to detect that. LOL

      I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

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  15. I keep meaning to write down all our little family stories. Here is a favourite - Jasmine's First Chocolate. My baby Jasmine, maybe nine months old and exploring solid foods, was sitting on my lap. I was eating a piece of chocolate while chatting to someone, and unthinkingly held the half-eaten piece at her level between bites. She leaned over and it was in her mouth - if she had teeth she would have taken my fingers off. And the look on her face! Imagine your first taste of chocolate! After being fed pureed vegetables and rice cereal, it was a revelation.

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    1. HAHA! What a cute story! You should definitely write all your stories down. They are a treasure!

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  16. That does sound like a perfect day, I hope you get to have it soon. I also hope you get to travel to all those places. Have a nice weekend!

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  17. Your special days sound a lot like mine!

    I wanted to niminate you for Mystery Blogger Award but I know you've been answering a host of questions lately BUT if you want to play, the rules (god, I hate that word) are on my blog!

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    1. Thanks, Toni! I have kept the link to that post and will participate in the future.

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  18. Loved your perfect days my friend!

    i may was less than four when once got separate from mom and lost in crowed .it took three hours to get back to my mother ,thanks to the shopkeeper who sat me at the high corner of his showcase and mom found me little ease .

    My dear brother died out of T.b when he was thirteen and i still miss him to deeply

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    1. That must have been scary for your mom! Thank goodness for that shopkeeper who kept you safe. And I'm so sorry about your brother. No matter how much time passes, we miss them.

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  19. What an amazing writer you are Martha! Enjoyed this post, but really, Australia?? WAAAAY tooo hottt!

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    1. Yup, Australia! Although I would plan to go when the weather is reasonable.

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  20. So good to read this Martha, I think all of your 'You Asked' posts have been brilliant,

    All the best Jan

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  21. A wonderful read, Martha! You would also enjoy the rainforest in Panama...

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