Friday, September 21, 2018

This Week

Happy Friday to all my blogging friends! How is everyone? And what have you been up to? Share your news in the comments because I really enjoy hearing from you.

So yesterday we picked up our new car. Here we are right before we headed home.


We traded in our CR-V and when we left it behind at the dealership, I felt my heart being squeezed and my eyes filling with tears. It wasn’t the car that got to me (after all, it’s just a material object), but the years it represents. We picked it up in the spring of 2003 and drove it for 15 years. And in those 15 years, there were so many changes. The most amazing man in the world and I only knew each other for a year in 2003, my beautiful girls were only 6 and 11, and my brother and my father were still alive.

During those 15 years, we got engaged and married and moved to two different cities. The girls grew up and went to high school and university and moved out. I grieved two of the most important people in my life and thought my broken heart would never heal. I turned 40 then 50 and went through menopause. My husband turned 50 and then 60 (this past July) and retired from his 30-year job. We took vacations as a family and vacations as a couple. There were road trips and birthdays and celebrations and family visits and big and small adventures. We started as a family of four and are now empty nesters.

15 years of laughing and crying and living and loving have come and gone, and all this crossed my mind as we drove away and said goodbye to our old vehicle. I thanked it for its amazing service. In all the time we had it we never had a problem, it never let us down and we never made one single major repair on it. It was the perfect car.

*sniff*

Onwards and upwards...


Monday I started my first day volunteering at the food bank. Holy moly...what an amazing experience! I met some wonderful people and may have handed out more food than I should have. Blame it on me being the newbie! And on empathy. Anyway, I left convinced that I’d made the right decision in donating my time at this place. I’d like to volunteer at one more organization but I’m not sure yet about whether I’ll be seeking employment or not. I’m considering a part time job but will wait to attend the job fair next month before I decide where I’m headed. I’ll either work part time and volunteer or else I’ll volunteer more hours per week at one or two or three places. We shall see.


Nothing else to say for now, so I’ll sign off here and wish you all a wonderful weekend!

41 comments:

  1. There's nothing like that new car smell! Enjoy it while it lasts!

    ReplyDelete
  2. Lovely sentiments Martha...
    We have had 3 Kias...great cars...enjoy!!
    HAve a great weekend...
    cheers!
    Linda :o)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Oh, that is good to hear, Linda! We have taken it on the highway a couple of times already and it is a great ride. Hope you've been enjoying a lovely weekend :)

      Delete
  3. Congrats on your new car! I enjoyed reading your retrospective.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Congrats to you two love birds.

    Yes, it's not the object, it's the memories and that is why some can't let go of stuff. But people aren't things. Others fear they will forget those memories if they give up said, thing. But you never will forget all those wonderful things you just wrote about.

    PS: Our new car was a KIA. Great deal and so good on gas.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. So agree with you! I've never had trouble letting go of things. The memories are always portable :) And I think that if you have trouble letting to, take a photo of said item as a keepsake and then let go of it. The photo takes up MUCH less room! :)

      Delete
  5. How exciting to have a new car. It can be bittersweet, can’t it?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It sure can, Birdie! We are now starting a new Chapter in our lives, which can also be very exciting.

      Delete
  6. A KIA was my other choice when I was looking for a "new" vehicle. I ended up with a good used Toyota (similar kind of vehicle to yours). Our van was the vehicle with a lot of memories of when the kids were wee little. Enjoy your new ride! -Jenn

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. We had a list of favourites and they all look very similar! We chose this one because of its reputation and the warranty. It had the BEST warranty of all of them.

      Delete
  7. It's lovely to have a new car with a good warranty! Gives such peace of mind. It sounds like your CR-V served you well.

    Kudos for the volunteer work. If you could volunteer at anything you wished, what would you choose, besides where you are now?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hm...good question. I'm not entirely sure but one option would be to find something in a hospital type setting. The other would be maybe working with women who have come out of abusive relationships. I'm also considering hospice, which I've done before, but not entirely sure yet.

      Delete
  8. You had a very good car and you explained why people get emotional about their old cars. I have a 2014 CRV

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I hope it lasts you for many more years. Most people I know who have had the CRV have been very pleased with it!

      Delete
  9. That is a nice car. May you have all happy memories for the entire time you have it. XO

    ReplyDelete
  10. Great looking car! I know what you mean about getting rid of the previous car. I felt that way when we traded in our van 2 years ago that we had for 17 years. Son learned to drive in that van and had many a wild adventure in it. We took it for vacations, etc., the dog had shed tons of fur in it and had smudged up all the windows. It was like getting rid of an old friend.

    How neat with your volunteering. I'm sure it was well appreciated by the recipients as well as yourself in your efforts.

    Good luck with your decision about perhaps pursuing part time employment. It is always good to have something going on to perhaps make a bit of money and do something that can be challenging, hew adventure, etc.

    betty

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. That car has felt like a silent but extremely reliable member of the family! HAHA Never asked for anything. Never made any trouble. Always there when we needed it :)

      It is definitely not the car, Betty, but the memories it brings to the surface! And there are many!

      Delete
  11. I do think that Honda would be interested in this post, Martha! Seriously! They couldn't pay for a more effective advertisement. My sister had one and she loved it too.
    Volunteering can be so rewarding. I did a bit at a local food bank years ago. It was an eye-opener.
    Good luck in your job search/volunteer service.
    Enjoy that brand new car!! VROOMMM!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I never thought of that, Jim! But it makes sense. Perhaps if they make me a good offer, I'll share this with them LOL But it did indeed turn out to be an amazing car. Best one I've ever had in my entire life!

      Delete
  12. Dear Martha, I know what you mean when you traded in your car, so many memories and those years went so quickly, didn't they? Best wishes to you in all that you do, dear one! xx

    ReplyDelete
  13. I hope you have the same wealth of memories and longevity with your Kia, and good luck with your next adventures.

    ReplyDelete
  14. Yay! Congratulations! It's a beauty, and so is the couple standing by it.

    ReplyDelete
  15. Congrats on the new ride.


    Daisy got a new (used) car back in the early summer. She loves it.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks, Adam! I hope Daisy's car turns out wonderful for her.

      Delete
  16. I hope you enjoy your new car and the wonderful new adventures you will have in it.

    I'm trying to get used to being an empty nester myself (almost) and not liking it much!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It is bittersweet being an empty nester. I am enjoying this new stage in our lives but also missing when the kids were little! I'd go back in time and do it all over again...at least for a little while :)

      Delete
  17. Lovely photo dear Martha!!!

    hope that new car will go as smooth as your darling old car my friend!

    i can relate to your feelings at the time of departure but you have the treasure of beautiful memories you made with her

    it is really nice to know about your life history ,you guys made wonderful couple

    things are in process for me as i am slipping towards the 49th year of my life in next few months and still have birds in nest

    being empty nester is making me frightened but yes this is life which goes on



    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you, Baili! I hope this new car lasts as long. That would be wonderful. We will certainly continue to create more lovely memories.

      Being an empty nester can be sad at times. I do miss when my girls were young. But it's also an exciting time in our lives. A new chapter of adventures has begun!

      Delete
  18. Lovely to read about your old car and the special memories over the years.
    Enjoy your new car, and may you get many more years of driving and more special memories …

    Well done on your food bank volunteering - that is so worthwhile.



    We had a family wedding over the weekend, which was lovely. The bride and groom had a marvellous day in the wet!!! Yes, it rained heavily most of the time … but they had the sunniest of smiles :)

    My good wishes

    All the best Jan

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I don't think even heavy rain can dampen such joy for couples in love! Glad you all had a lovely time.

      Delete
  19. love the photo of you 2 with the car and enjoyed reading about your old car and your life. We have a fairly new jeep but we still drive around our Silver Toyota Solara from 1999 and it still has a body that looks classic - not at all like mine. The inside though is a bit worn down - definitely like mine. good for you donating your time.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. HAHAHA! I had a good laugh with your comment, Sandy. I'm at that stage with my body :)

      Delete
  20. haha, darn! gravity sucks big time

    ReplyDelete